While Rory and Lane are portrayed as best friends, Rory’s treatment towards Lane throughout the series has been anything but the same.
Everyone, including millennials today, still love and swear by Gilmore Girls. In fact, fans are still hoping for a new season or movie, and for good reason too.
- Rory was too focused on herself
- Rory and Lane’s friendship seemed a little forced
- Lorelai is a better friend to Lane
The series captures an eccentric and heart-warming mother-daughter relationship, which makes the viewer feel a little less alone. Maybe it’s the colourful town of Stars Hollow and its quirky residents, Lorelai (Lauren Graham) and Rory’s (Alexis Bledel) relationship, or the Gilmore grandparents, but it definitely isn’t Rory and Lane’s (Keiko Agena) friendship.
Rory did have many great qualities, she was smart, driven and well-read. She was motivated to be successful and worked hard and made every opportunity count. But she was never a team-player or had any interest in making friends, so why was Rory and Lane’s friendship deemed perfect?
They were childhood friends and continued to be until the revival, but viewers wonder if it was for old times’ sake. Let’s see if it was.
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Rory was too focused on herself and completely forgot about Lane
Rory’s best friend Lane is among the most popular non-Gilmore characters on the series. She’s a fan-favourite and viewers watched her character arc grow in depth, through the years. Lane worked hard to get whatever she wanted. She didn’t have it easy, be it a band T-shirt her mother wouldn’t approve of or dating a guy she liked.
Lane was resilient, smart and creative and never shied away from asking for help. She even taught herself to play drums because of how passionate she was about music. While Rory helped Lane live the punk life and scheme through her many plans, was it enough?
We’ve seen Rory pick up music CDs for Lane, help her secretly talk to her boyfriend and even dye her hair purple. But when Rory starts dating Dean, she seems more self-centered and focused on herself. Lane’s problems become trivial and even when she’s trying to tell her best friend about her crush, Rory simply can’t pay attention to her. Lane rambles on and on but Rory is too focused on Dean and her books.
Maybe Rory didn’t mean to intentionally invalidate Lane, but a little support from her when Lane needed her, would’ve been nice. Lane is always there for Rory, whenever she needs her, so it would nice to see her return the favour.
Rory and Lane’s friendship through the years
There’s a lot to love about Gilmore Girls, but the biggest nick in the show is the treatment meted out to Lane. We’ve rarely seen Rory ask Lane about her life. But she’s quick to judge her best friend when she sees her working on a school project with Dean. Her criticism of Lane was irrational and completely unreasonable when she was already aware of them being classmates.
In Rory and Lane’s friendship, Lane comes across as the better friend because she is very accommodating. She’s always there to listen to Rory’s problems and hang-out with her even though her mother doesn’t approve. She bends the rules to see Rory at all times.
It’s understandable that Rory had a busy life at Chilton and she was working hard to do well for herself. But it’s the same story when she goes to Yale and starts dating Logan. Lane is forgotten again. We barely see or hear from Lane, and Lorelai always knows more about Lane’s life than her best friend does.
Lorelai is a better friend to Lane
It’s true that Rory’s mom Lorelai related to Lane more than she ever could. They have a lot in common – they both grew up with conservative parents and just wanted to be themselves. They both had to work really hard to feel independent. For Lorelai, it was working as a maid at an inn and for Lane, it was moving out of her mother’s house and working at Luke’s. Just like Lorelai, Lane gets pregnant at an early age as well, so there’s a natural connection between the two.
When Rory departs from Stars Hollow high for Chilton and eventually Yale University, Lane was still comfortable visiting Lorelai alone. They’d talk about Lane’s problems and every meeting almost always ended with Lorelai giving her advice. Don’t forget, she even cleared out her garage so Lane could practice with her band without her mother finding out.
In the Netflix revival series, we see that Lane and Rory are still friends. Maybe it’s because they had so much in common and still love and respect each other. They both grew up differently, with Rory attending a different school and Lane staying back in Stars Hollow. While there was no reason for them not to be friends, theirs wasn’t the quintessential friendship it was painted to be.
What do you think about Rory and Lane’s friendship? Do you think they’re best-friends? Let us know in the comments.