These 5 Steps will get you there!

The way to having a more soulful love begins with you. And even once you have done the work on yourself and have called in your lover, the work doesn’t stop there. In fact, the next layer gets peeled back. This is because when you’re with your soulmate, there’s no hiding from one another and you are each other’s biggest mirror.

But the big question is that what is soulful sex? Soulful sex is definitely not what you see in adult movies, music videos, movies, TV shows or magazines. Soulful sex takes place when two whole, authentic, present, unified, conscious, vulnerable beings choose to come together from a place of love.

Here are five ways to have more soulful sex:

1. Clarity in communication

Clear honest communication is imperative for soulful sex. Don’t be vague. A lot of us assume that our partners can magically read our minds, but the truth is they can’t. We expect them to decipher on their own the best way to kiss, stroke, touch, and make love, but this ain’t the truth. Soulful sex is a team sport, and, as the owner of your beautiful temple, you need to take full responsibility for helping achieve what you desire. So speak up and communicate clearly both inside and outside the bedroom.

2. Be present : fully

In order to open wide and go deep, presence is essential. You can’t be pondering over what’s for dinner, how many emails are in your inbox, or what time you have to pick up the kids. Get out of your head and back into your body.

3. Surrender and let go

Let go of your expectations of how things “should” look and give in to the present moment. It’s amazing how we have mapped out how our lovemaking will pan out before it’s even happened. First we’ll go into the bedroom, then he’ll kiss my neck, then take my clothes off, then go down on me, and then we’ll get to business. Not only does future tripping like this take you out of the present moment, it stops you from having a true, real experience of soulful sex.

4. Do not Judge

Judging yourself or your partner can never go hand in hand with achieving soulful sex. Sex is an expression of love. It doesn’t matter whether you’re in a long-term, committed relationship or not. Love and appreciation are two sides of the same coin, so appreciate your partner, yourself, and you’ll take your lovemaking to a whole new level.

5. Make trust a priority

Trust is the magical superglue of your relationship. Love rarely dies in one sweep. It’s the little white lies that erode the foundation of your relationship. Trust is something that is built between two people over time and strengthened with action. To nurture trust in your relationship, one has to be impeccable with your words and actions. If you act in a way that’s not from a place of integrity own it and apologise. If your partner does the same, choose to let it go. Do not hold on to it or add it to your mental spreadsheet of things to use against your partner in your next fight. Make trust, honesty, and integrity priorities in all your relationships, and watch them flourish.

Actions speak the loudest. Its your actions that need to show people that you are trustworthy and honest. We can’t force someone to be trustworthy, but we do know, in our hearts, the difference between an occasional breach of trust and a genuine aversion to truth and faith-keeping.