Imagine this: You are hooking up with your partner and it is getting hot. Clothes are coming off, body parts are entering places and you are getting a lot of into it. But suddenly you burst into tears. What the hell? Why are my eyeballs the wettest part of my body right now? Believe it or not, crying during sex is not all that unheard of.
You may not like the fact that you do this, but you can’t really help it either. And it is not necessarily a bad thing all the time.
The reason many people may prefer to avoid crying during sex has everything to do with their partner. It is not so much that they feel uncomfortable, but rather that they feel awkward for their partner.
They don’t want their lover to think they are upset.
Crying during sex- why you do it and what it means
Sometimes it is for a number of other reasons. If you cry during sex, don’t worry. You are not alone and there are ways you can avoid it if it is really that bothersome to you. Firstly, we have to understand why some people shed a tear when they are getting frisky.
It’s emotionally draining
For everyone emotions run high during sex. The difference is that if you end up crying while having sex with your partner, your mind can’t handle all of it at once. This is especially true if you have very deep feelings for the person you are having sex with.
Basically, all of your emotions end up running at their highest level during sex.
And so your body needs to cry in order to deal with them.
It feels incredible
Let’s just be real, sex feels great. And that feeling can sometimes be amazing that it actually makes you cry. However, these are not sad tears. They are more like tears of joy.
If you cry because of this, you should not worry about it. Really, your partner is going to be more than happy to know that they make you feel so good you can’t help but cry.
It’s hurting you
Pain obviously causes tears in some cases. If you are having sex and it hurts a great deal, you may start crying. This is definitely something to look out for and obviously stop if it happens.
You should never feel like you have to continue having sex if it is hurting you. Talk to your lover and figure out the issue. You may even have to go see a specialist if you don’t know why you are in so much pain while having sex.
It’s bringing up bad memories
Sex can be a trigger for some people. Even if you feel fine beforehand, having sex can bring up bad memories that alter your mood so significantly that you actually start crying. It can really be about anything. Perhaps you are not over an ex you used to be intimate with.
How to stop crying during sex
Make sure you take care of emotional issues regularly
By this, I mean that you have to have an emotional outlet. This can really be anything. So long as you have a way to keep your emotions in check in a healthy way, you should be able to stop crying during sex
Reduce your stress
Stress can play a big role in why you end up with tears when you are supposed to be moaning with pleasure. If you are too wound up, the release you are supposed to feel during sex could come out as tears instead of an orgasm.
That being said, you just need to keep your stress levels down. Exercising or finding another healthy form of relaxation can help you stop the flow of tears during sex.
Take deep breath when you feel the tears coming
If you feel like you are about to start crying, take a few calming breaths. As long as this does not completely take away from the sexual moment, it should help you hold back the tears.
The best way to do this is to just breathe in deeply through your nose and let it out slowly through your mouth.
Think of something else
Distract yourself! If you focus on the fact that you are crying, it could make matters worse. Therefore, you should focus your attention on something else.
Think about something that makes you happy instead. Or even focus on the sensations the person in your bed is giving you. If you keep your mind off of it, it should go away.
Crying during sex is natural for some people. It is the way their body works and it is how they express the pleasure they are feeling. But if you do want to put an end to the waterworks, these tips can help.