Have you ever just found out your guy is actually gay? One moment you’re holding hands, giving each other promise rings and the other, BOOM! He’s gay.
Failed relationships happen to the best of us. Nobody is perfect and while some people know who they are from birth; others often take years to realise their sexual orientation. Couples find it really difficult to cope up with the revelation. It is truly a hard time for both to deal with.
Here are 6 important things to keep in mind when your man decides to come out of the closet!
Recognize that as much as this is a shocking time for you, it has been difficult for him as well. Be there for him at all times. Under no circumstance should you try to make him feel guilty, he’s as much a victim as you are. Just support him for all that he is.
Your sexual orientation is something that he can’t change, regardless of whether anybody approves.
Don’t blame yourself
While you must not lash out on him to put you in this kind of situation, you shouldn’t blame yourself, either. Well, your bae is gay and you can’t change that scenario, his sexual orientation is all about him and has nothing to do with what you did.
It just is what it is.
Talk to Friends and family
The worst part about going through a breakup is struggling, being frustrated and feeling like you’re alone and no one understands, especially if it happens in this way.
But if you share your problems with your friends and family, their support will help you deal with the situation better.
A problem shared is a problem halved.
Don’t cut him out your life completely
Remember, there’s a reason why you guys were together, that connection is what friendships are built on. You might lose a boyfriend or a husband but surely you don’t want to lose a friend.
Rare as is true love, true friendship is rarer.Jean de La Fontaine
Take some time away from him to process your feelings, but don’t cut the lines of communication between you two forever.
Embrace him for all that he is. Encourage and support him to be his most authentic self. And don’t let what society or anybody has to say influence what you feel about him or make him feel bad about himself.
We’re sure your partner (or ex-partner) would feel absolutely proud and lucky to have you.
Although the trauma of the revelation of your partner can be devastating, it is important to realize that the situation is not your fault.
Stop thinking about what you could have done differently to save this relationship or what you guys could have been.
Try to accept this reality and move forward.
While your man admitting that he’s gay may seem like the end of the world, it really isn’t. You’ll get over it sooner than you think and will be able to look back fondly at the good times.