Swati Arora, DKODING Media
Love bombing is an attempt to influence a person by demonstrations of attention and affection. It can be used in different ways and can be used for either a positive or negative purpose.
Many predators use it to find victims on the internet and reel them into taking advantage. While others have personality disorders that drive them to gain power and dominance, like a sociopath or narcissist. The result is the same for the victim.
They are left damaged, bottomed out, broken both inside and sometimes out, and with very little self-esteem left.
It is difficult to get out from under someone who uses love like a bomb to keep you manipulated and under their thumb, which is why it is important to see the red flags and not succumb to their manipulation. If you get that eerie feeling that something isn’t right, always listen. It is your guardian angel telling you to proceed with caution.
When you are the target of love bombing, you will feel that you have found your soul mate.
You will brag about the efforts of your partner in front of your family and friends.
However, your relationship will be established on a bunch of lies and manipulation. Love bombers have dark motives when it comes to showering their partners with too much attention and love.
Signs of love bombing in your partner
Love bombing is terrifying because most of us don’t even know it is happening. If your boyfriend or girlfriend brings you home a box of chocolates or flowers, you might just think “wow what a sweet guy/girl.”
It is romantic and intended to make you fall in love. What’s wrong with that? If they are being genuine, nothing!
But if they manipulate you into falling for them, this is something to steer clear off
Everything in the relationship moves too fast
Just after the first few days of dating each other, you will notice that your partner thinks he/she is lucky to have met you. Your partner will keep complimenting you and making you feel cherished without actually knowing you. He or she will probably even confess his or her love for you without actually letting the relationship develop.
They compliment constantly
A sincere, well-meaning compliment is never a bad thing, but if your partner is love bombing you, they’ll shower you with compliments that feel shallow or inauthentic simply to butter you up so they can mistreat you in the future.
Constantly talking about the future
Love bombing literally means making you fall for somebody too fast. What better way to do that than to make promises of the future you will share together? If they constantly want to talk about the future and what you will name your children.
Jealous of nothing
Try going out with some friends one night and see their reaction. If you are a victim of love bombing, they will likely get very jealous and upset with you. “As if you are leaving me alone” may be thrown out there.
You’re allowed to go have some fun, and a reasonable partner would understand that.
They are overprotective
Nobody could ever harm you or put you down. They make sure of that. Yes, I understand that our partners should support and stand up for us when necessary. Sometimes it really isn’t necessary. If they go way over the top to defend you, then you might be being love-bombed. You can handle yourself, and some things really aren’t worth even defending.
They make grand romantic gestures
There is nothing wrong with making a romantic gesture in a relationship but if someone is taking you on a hot air balloon ride or holding a boom box outside your window when you have just started dating, that might be a clue that their love bombs aren’t all that sincere.
Knowing the signs of love bombing keeps you from being a victim.
Don’t fall for this popular manipulation tactic used by insecure individuals who will do anything to feel loved.