What if your number one wasn’t the one?
In this day and age not having sex with a stranger, being a virgin when you get married women is pretty much like finding the tooth fairy near your bed. It’s super rare because almost everyone nowadays is sexually active without being married.
are,if you’re married, your best sex was not with your husband but with someone before.
If you’re not married and it seems like you’re having the best sex of your life, you may not end up with that person.
So what’s going on? Does that mean married women should just settle?
The sex was hot because he was a jerk
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t mean that guys who have sex well are jerks or that men who are sweethearts don’t know to f*ck.
They do. But this is more to do with a woman’s perception of the guy she’s with. Without being in a relationship with the “perfect” man, there is no pressure on women to perform well or have crazy demands.
Unfortunately, with a stranger, women seem to have a better idea of what they want during sex and not hesitate to ask for it.
A woman gets turned on with a bad boy, a random stranger who has a hot stare or a steely look. And the most part, women would not to take that guy home to meet her parents.
But taking him home for a night is a different story altogether.
Countless movies, shows and books have shown us that strangers sex are the ultimate aphrodisiac for married women and of all ages. This tends to heighten the attractiveness and lead to pretty great and mind-blowing sex. Since it’s happening once, there’s also this urgency to be the best at one go.
Lust takes a backseat to love
Happiness and companionship last way way way longer than an orgasm. A hug has more of a positive effect on a person than a climax.
In a relationship, many things matter a lot more than an orgasm or the number of sex positions you can do, especially in a long-term relationship. Love, compromise, sacrifice and comfort come at the forefront while lust and libido take a backseat.
No one is saying that sex just stops, it doesn’t. It’s the importance that one gives to their partner’s needs that go beyond an orgasm.
Lust is all well and good when it comes to a have sex with a stranger.
Because it is someone you don’t know and someone you may never see again. And in a relationship taking time to figure out your partner’s body and working on it would probably be better in the long run.
Great sex isn’t supposed to be had every day
A lot of women, almost all women have had this fantasy that they would marry the best sex of their lives. And that they would spend forever with that person having mind-blowing sex. But
As we age, our perception and opinion of the “best”
Great sex is great simply because it is rare and a one-time thing.
If you love chocolate cake and you eat it every day, eventually after a year (based on how much I love chocolate cake, it could take 5 years), you’ll get sick and it won’t be special or great anymore. Great sex is like that.
How to remember the best sex of your life?
A married woman remembers the best sex of her life, because it was with a stranger, someone who doesn’t matter to her now.
Being happy with your husband or a long-term partner has way more value than multiple orgasms from a stranger.
So, it was the best because it was not every single day. Maybe best really means just once.
You can have really good sex with an emotionally mature. Grown-up person who is not only your sex partner but your life partner as well. It is the kind of sex you build together, with experiences, mistakes, honest conversations about expectations and needs.
And guess what? They’ll listen and they’ll abide and they’ll give you what you want.
At the end of the day, your best sex may not have been with your husband or your long-term partner. But it doesn’t mean that it isn’t coming, because
So hang in there and keep
CONTRIBUTED BY : ZARA KHURANA, DKODING MEDIA