We don’t always have a condom when we really need one and go for the pull out method but that one little misstep can lead to serious cons. However, has that ever stopped us from having sex? No. Instead, we use the almighty pull out method.
If you’ve ever been on birth control or have always used condoms, then you may not be very familiar with the infamous pull out method. Before going any further, I should explain this concept. The pull out method is when the man pulls out right before ejaculating, thus preventing semen from getting inside the vagina. It sounds somewhat technical, but, let’s be honest, most of us have done this at least once or its a staple.
Pull out method 101
I mean, sometimes you don’t expect to get all horny and in the moment and what are you doing next? For sure you can say no and zip your pants back up, but how many of us have actually done that, none!
It’s not as easy as it sounds, we’re legit animals. And by calling us animals, I mean, we have tunnel vision or none of it when it comes to being in the moment. So, if you’re thinking about trying the pull out method, here are some general things and some major cons you should know.
Maybe saying that you should only be having sex with a condom is right, but it’s not realistic.
#1 It’s more common than you think
If you ever have taken a sex-education class or watched any romantic comedy, they usually talk about wearing a condom. And you know, it’s a good idea. Condoms prevent the spread of STIs and reduce the odds of pregnancy from occurring.
But in reality, many people try the pull-out method even with cons existing.
#2 It’s not 100% effective
Listen, no contraceptive is 100% effective and it won’t ever be. However, using a condom or birth control is better at preventing pregnancy than the pull out method as its literally not protecting you anyhow. It’s not that the pull out method doesn’t work, it does sometimes, The problem is the guy pulling out and who can trust that.
The challenge for men is pulling out the penis right before ejaculation. And it’s a challenge because, well, I think it feels really good. If I was a guy, I would probably struggle with this as well, why would I want to give up that crazy sensation of filling someone up. So, it’s basically it’s all about timing. If your partner is always late to meetings, well, maybe use a condom.
#3 What about pre-cum?
There’s a lot of confusion about pre-cum. But, after some research, it’s been discovered that pre-cum does contain active sperm. However, pre-cum is made up of one-third of active sperm, so though there is sperm in pre-cum, it’s a smaller amount than during ejaculation.
This doesn’t mean the female can’t get pregnant, because she still can. So even if you do pull out in time, there’s still a chance for pregnancy.
#4 Why do people risk it?
I’m going to be fully honest here and tell you why you have men who pressure women into having sex without a condom as an all-time thing. No, it’s not because they want to bond with you and have a deep level ‘connection.’ It’s very simple, It feels better, more real.
Many men are unable to maintain a full erection while wearing a condom because it numbs the sensation and slows down the process. Now, that doesn’t mean as a woman you should have sex without a condom to satisfy them. Trust me, they can handle wearing a condom for fifteen minutes if they really want sex.
#5 The pros of pulling out
Though the pull out method gets a bad rap, there are some pros to it apart from its huge cons. It just depends on your situation mostly. The pull out method doesn’t cost you anything. Literally not even pennies. You don’t have to take hormones, no doctor’s prescription, it can be used at the moment, and you don’t need to prepare in advance just simply have sex.
#6 The cons of pulling out
Of course, the number one con of the pull-out method is the risk. Particularly, if your man doesn’t pull out on time. Not to mention, you also always will have pre-cum to worry about.
In addition, pulling out doesn’t protect you from contracting an STI. Because you’re not wearing a condom, you increase your chances of contracting one, especially if you’re using this method during a one night stand with a random man.
If you have a committed partner, then, your odds are much lower of getting an STI—unless he’s one of those guys that has a wandering eye for every lady out there.
#7 Have a backup plan
If you’re going to use the pull out method, then you should always be prepared for the worst, just in case, it goes wrong. Like, he forgets to pull out! So, make sure you always have some emergency contraception and a condom, in case you have some suspicions.
However, if you’re suspicious, perhaps you shouldn’t have sex with him.
#8 Women should know their cycle
If you’re a woman, and you prefer the pull out method, then you need to know your body and the cons that come along with it. Download an app to help you track your cycles and alerts you when you’re at peak ovulation hence avoiding risks. So, during those high fertility days, make sure you wear a condom and don’t get a surprise later on.
#9 Don’t just follow the pack
You may be thinking of trying this pull out method because it seems to be the popular thing right now. However, you do what you feel is right for you only. If you’re not comfortable trying it, you don’t have to, not now, not ever.
There’s nothing wrong with using a condom, please don’t succumb to pressure. If you’re a woman, since you’re at risk for pregnancy, you make the decision of the contraception used during sex, always.
It’s your body you make the choice.
If you’re having sex using the pull out method and you’re not in a committed relationship, make sure you have regular STI tests as that can be a huge con to this. Actually, even if you’re in a committed relationship, you should be getting tested regularly. Not all STIs show up right away, so if you’re in a new relationship, you may not see the symptoms until much later on in life.
It doesn’t show distrust in the relationship, but it’s your body and you should know what’s going on in it always!
What can I say, is having sex is fun and though wearing a condom is a good idea, it doesn’t happen always and can land you in unwanted situations.
If you’re not prepared, at least you now know the cons that come along the pull out method.