Whoever said “bigger the better” was either under the influence of narcotics or possessed of a cavernous, echoing vajayjay. It’s time to stop beating around the bush. If your man is blessed/cursed with a prodigious donkey dong, it doesn’t mean you’re one lucky partner… especially when the girth and size leads to discomfit. You might have figured out the tips and tricks when the man’s little buddy is on the modest side, but do you know what to do, or how to literally get to grips, when he’s too big?
Sex can hurt. And it hurts more with a large penis. (Those who know, know) It’s harder to hook up with someone with a massive hood than people imagine. (Pun was definitely intended here) But, that shouldn’t be a deal-breaker. There are multiple ways to handle a giant d*ck.
Here are some common and not-so-common ways to make sex enjoyable with a well-endowed man.
1. Communicate… communicate… for the love of god, communicate…
We’re completely aware of how dramatic that sounds.
That said, if you’ve already seen your man’s not-so-little friend, and are aware that it is massive for you, you must communicate and be transparent about your concerns, before you set the ball rolling.
Why? Because your man needs to know that his penis can hurt you, and he must know that he needs to take it slow.
2. Take your time with foreplay
Yes, we know this seems counter-intuitive; but hear us out.
When it comes to natural lubrication, a LOT of foreplay comes into play. When you and your partner are equally aroused, the more relaxed you’ll be, which helps things flow smoothly. (It’s all about the puns. So, puns are intended.) And when it comes to sex, penetrative sex shouldn’t necessarily be the end goal. There are so many ways to get off.
Penetrative sex should just be a part of the sexual life, instead of the climax of a movie. (wink, wink) When both you and your partner spend an ample amount of time exploring each other’s bodies, you’ll understand what works, what doesn’t, and what gets the other person off. It’s all about exploring and enjoying the time with each other between the sheets.
3. Work with your angles
When you’re involved with a man with an enormous d*ck, you must figure out what positions work best for you. Since you’re on the receiving end, be in control of the intensity and how far you’re willing to go with the penetration. The positions where the penetrating partner isn’t in control will work best for you. Positions such as face-to-face, woman-on-top, or spooning will help with preventing deep penetration.
P.S. try staying away from missionary or doggy style that sucks in for deeper penetration.
4. Bring in the toys
If none of these help and you still feel uncomfortable, invest in some sex toys. And not just the regular vibrators and dildos. You could use that, but it’s best to invest in cock rings. These rings prevent the penis from going in too deep, and as a bonus, most rings come with vibrator facilities. This way, you can be comfortable, while receiving something more pleasurable.
5. Lube is your best friend
Even when you naturally get wet, really wet, it’s not going to harm anyone, especially you, if you apply a good slather of lube. The easy slide-in you get from a good water-based lube makes a huge difference. The slippery qualities make the thrusting or pounding more glide-y, which also helps with a faster motion in-and-out.
6. The condoms should fit
The common problem with condoms is “one size doesn’t fit all.” And with a larger penis, if the condoms don’t fit well, the penis might feel constricted. So, it’s best to invest in a brand that would fit well, isn’t too tight, and doesn’t tear. So, stock up on XL size condoms so that you’re both safe.
Basically, when you’re involved with a partner who has a large penis, it all boils down to knowing your limits. It’s all about communication, experimentation, and respect. Because let’s face it, it’s not the man’s fault for being well-endowed. So, be patient, understand what works for both of you. Sex should be fun and comfortable. So, good luck with overcoming the big obstacles. (We had to end it with a pun.)