Just like any other relationship, even long-distance relationships start to show signs of toxicity. There are some very obvious signs that a long-distance relationship isn’t working.
You have to continuously convince yourself time and again that the relationship will work out, yet something is not right.
You both don’t have an understanding and they feel so distant or like a whole new person altogether. If the relationship feels more forced than natural, it’s a red flag.
These relationships can be tough. But of if you are hanging in the middle and have no clue, these signs are for you.
1. No Calls For Long Periods
We are a generation connected by unlimited resources like social media or wireless connections. Communication forms the base of every relationship of any type. You once upon a time, spent hours on the phone with each other earlier but suddenly, it is not like before.
You spend days without talking to each other.
And when you do, you do not need to talk for long to catch up on everything about each other’s lives, its like a liability.
2. No Plans For a Future Rendezvous
Remember how you planned to meet every month? The excitement of precious day outs? Of packing the bags, choosing the places and all the eagerness to be with each other!
Now, the it has turned into, no plans being made by either of you. You’re cleary bored.
3. No Physical Intimacy
Intimacy is the base of a relationship, you feel connected. We hear about how to keep the romance alive while doing long distance. Frequently being in touch is important to keep the romance and intimacy alive in a long-distance relationship. When a relationship is dying down, regular passion is the last thing on anyone’s mind.
4. Constant Fights
When everything your partner does is a point to fight on or vice versa, it is a huge signal that the long-distance relationship isn’t working. Little things have the potential to irritate you both. Every phone call turns into mini bursts of arguments. You might not even call back (or get a phone call back) even when you decide to cut the call.
5. Not Appreciative Enough
You might give each other gifts or move mountains to get a proper 10-minute conversation with your long-distance partner but appreciation is to the minimal and not enough.
They do not show interest in you making time for you, it’s not a priority.
6. Starting To Feel One-sided
The relationship starts to feel one-sided, lonely, almost depressing. Whether it’s you putting in the right amount of effort or it’s your partner. You may feel like you are always trying to catch up with your partner. Long-distance is a two-way street, rather all relationships are; you have to go all the way each time to make it work.
7. The Relationship Has Become Toxic
Both of you might realize this but not agree with it. You both may feel that the relationship has become unhealthy, ruining your peace of mind and sleep at night. A feeling that your personal goals are left out because of relationship demands.
One may feel like you have to put yourself second to make this relationship work and it is already giving you headaches. It’s better to let go than be in a toxic one.
LDR takes time, effort and patience. Communication is key and understanding your partner’s point of view, is important.
BY LAKSHYA LAW | DKODING MEDIA