What is misogyny?
Misogyny is the dislike of, contempt for or ingrained prejudice against women. It is ingrained in us because of the people we are surrounded by. Misogyny runs deep because of previous generations indulgence in inflating their ego a little too much.
Misogyny and patriarchy have co-existed since the dawn of humans or as most call it, the dawn of Man.
Does misogyny affect your relationship? I hope for your sake that your answer is ‘No’.
The truth – How it eminates
As kids, what we talk about the most among each other is usually sex. The fact that there is nobody who knows anything about sex willing to talk about it with us makes it all the more confusing for us in our formative years.
Growing up around misogynysts
The misdirection of our emotions and thoughts turns into wanting sex with no prior understanding of it. The apprehension that sex is about men shagging women, however, and wherever they like creeps into the mind, unbeknownst.
Women are objectified from the most tender years. This rate is especially high in areas with low literacy rates. Literally has a direct effect on how the brain functions.
Yet, even literacy does not ensure women being treated fairly.
Constantly seeing people around you openly disrespect women, abuse them and mistreat them eventually makes it normal for the witnesses.
The Manifestation – Look out for these traits in your relationship
Relationships are the worst when one loses self-respect and develops the belief that they deserve what they are receiving. The cause, in many cases, is the misogynistic beliefs that are so deeply implanted in our partner’s minds. But you can help yours out of this hole.
Here are actions you need to look out for in your relationship.
Undue Interference:
When your partner wants to be involved in absolutely everything that you do because he/she has trust issues, this is a clear sign of the patriarchy playing with their head. Inflating their ego by telling them every time they want to know things may be a bad idea. It will cause him to think he can get away with it every time.
He wants control over you and you must not give in. The reason behind this could also be a bad history and you should talk to your partner before jumping to conclusions.
Unjust Restrictions:
When you are being jumped at with restrictions on what you do and where you go, it is time you stand up for yourself. You should not be stopped from going out late at night, you should be allowed to talk to whoever you want.
Making friends, socialising, going out because you want to is a part of your mental wellbeing. Nobody can hold your wings, only you.
Imposing decisions:
In your relationship, the two people involved are you and your partner. This means that you both are equal to each other. That, in turn, means your opinion on matters that affect your life, directly or indirectly, is meant to be important.
If your partner isn’t listening to you, you have to make yourself heard. Your partner must be made aware of the consequences that his actions have.
Dominating in bed:
Sadism and Masochism is a different fetish. Dominating your partner in bed without their consent should be a big no-no for evrybody. Your partner may not like it and it is definitely not okay to hurt them.
You are showing classic signs of being misogynistic and your partner will probably kick you out of their lives for it.
Teach them a lesson, talk to your partner and tell him that his actions speak louder than his words and they speak Misogyny.
No importance:
This could mean that your man doesn’t care about what you want, in or out of bed. If such is the case with your relationship, the end for it is near and the cause is your other half. In many cases men give their guy friends more importance that their significant other.
This creates a very visible crack in your bond and trust.
Eradicating Misogyny – A tall order:
With incidents of sexual harassment being so high, it is quite obvious that our country is full of misogynists.
Misogyny exists and thrives because it keeps the old system of patriarchy alive and prosperous. Women of the world deserve better – better men, better sex, better loving.
Men of the world can enjoy sex with other women as and when they wish, facing almost no consequence. Women are faced with the petrifying fear of even talking about sex.
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The goal is to make people think. Until people don’t become self-aware of their thoughts and actions, chances of turning our world into one that is misogyny-free remain low.
Mothers need to raise better, gender sensitised and caring sons. Sons who understand the misgivings of society, only to be raised above it all because of it.
Feminism activists are doing their bit by helping women who have been faced with sexual harassment through various campaigns. The most recent one to go big – #MeToo campaign – has given the women a platform to express how they have been made to feel.
Freedom can only be achieved when women are emancipated from all forms of oppression.
DKODING|Nelson Mandela
As men, it is our responsibility that we leave the baggage of past experience behind to give the greatest amount of respect and affection to the women we love – or the men – but that’s a chat for another day.
