Allow me to explain. We all know that sex is fun. The fun doesn’t fully depend on what’s happening down south, instead, it’s all about what’s cooking up there…
Yes, I’m talking about the brain — the most powerful sexual organ. Now that’s known, it’s time to learn how this organ is linked to sex and what’s the difference between the ‘ah’ and ‘oh.’
- Mental illnesses should not be ignored
- Change the way you think
- Gender differences are the new norm
- Shred the script
To begin with, let’s invite hormones to the play. Yes, those pesky little things that have our emotions running wild, for no good reason. These emotions have names and rule our sex drive:
Dopamine aka the hormone for happiness, oxytocin — the hormone for cuddling, and testosterone (believe it or not, women have them, too).
It’s easy to blame these hormones as we think it controls us, but you can easily control these hormones. And this is where your most pwerful sex organ — BRAIN enters.
Let’s learn how to use our brain to our hottest and healthiest sexual advantage. These are some tips to help you start.
1. Mental illness shouldn’t be ignored
Dopamine can be the hero or villain. It’s all about perspective. Dopamine matters a lot when it comes to your orgasm, libido, and arousal, but having just the right amount is key.
If you have too much dopamine, you may become addicted to sex, and if you have too little, you’ll be a couch potato.
Untreated depression because of dopamine malfunction is known for being a common mood-killer. Causes like anxiety, stress, ADHD, and other mood-related disorders take a huge toll on your libido.
2. Change the way you think
Again, it’s all about perspective in the end. When you alter the way you think, your brain wavelength changes too. For instance, let’s talk about positive people. These folks are naturally very optimistic and happy. In a way, you can fool your brain by thinking positive thoughts. Hence, start making a list of things you feel grateful about every night before you head to sleep. This will have you feeling more grateful and positive about everything in life.
3. Gender differences are the new norm
It’s an age-old tale. Men and women are different species, and now with different sexual orientations, everything may seem tricky, especially with how we view and how the societal and structural differences impact us. In general, women should learn and understand what they desire sexually, and men must keep in mind their partner desires, through practice, repetition, and coaching. Although this is how it works in a heterosexual relationship, it also accounts for the same for the community of LGBTQIA+.
4. Shred the script
The opinions that you’ve been fed regarding sex or how the society regards sex, shouldn’t change your thoughts and beliefs about sex. There are two ways to look at it:
Sex can be wholesome and fulfilling, and sex that can be filled with guilt and shame.
There’s so right or wrong manner to experience your sexuality and no one should define it for you either. That’s the best part of your sexuality. The power lies in your brain. So, throw away the societal-accepted scripts and write your own goddamn sexual story. Make love to whomever you want, whenever, and how many ever times you want it.
Throw away the societal-accepted scripts and write your own goddamn sexual story.
When we talk about sex, as much as it is a physical need, it’s a psychological need as well. If your mind isn’t in it, your genitals won’t be into it either. We may be physically healthy, but if we don’t tend to our mental needs or if we don’t understand our sexuality, you can say goodbye to satisfying sex life.
So, when you face a problem in your sexual life, try analyzing what’s going on up there in the most powerful sex organ — before trying to eliminate all the physical causes.