When a relationship is failing there are usually some obvious signs, like an increase in arguments, name-calling, and more time spend apart. But, when things have gotten unhealthy (and may be rushing towards an end) it is not always so obvious. Sometimes, there are signs a relationship is failing. While they can be easy to miss, these signs are just as important to recognize if you want to save your relationship.
If you are feeling that your relationship is coming to an end, you are probably right. That being said, you might need an extra helping hand in taking the next step to being single. Knowing the signs that your relationship is failing is the first step to accepting the situation.
So, let’s figure out what is really going on in your love life.
Signs of a Failing Relationship
They disregard you in little ways
A relationship that is built to last will consist of two people who always take each other into consideration. So yes, you should be concerned if your partner is suddenly living that solo life. “They eat by themselves and don’t include you in any plans. They stop adding your laundry to the loads they are washing. Discontinuing the simple, little things we do for each other when we are in a solid relationship is a good indicator that your partner is not as invested as they used to be.
There is a lack of intimacy
I don’t want to say that sex is the important part of a relationship because it’s not. But it what divides friendships from romantic relationships. If you are not getting intimate anymore, that’s a big sign your relationship is failing. If you are feeling ignored or not interested in having sex with your partner anymore, examine that closely.
There are no more future plans
When you talk about the future, your plans don’t include your partner. This is a sign that you don’t see them in your life anymore. When you are with someone you love, your future plans include them.
But if you are only thinking about yourself, it shows they’re not going to be there.
You or your partner has become extremely jealous
Before, neither of you were that jealous. But suddenly, ever since you started to have issues, jealously has become a key element of your relationship. This is because you know the relationship is struggling and insecurities are popping out.
There is contempt
If there is the feeling of contempt in your relationship, the odds of you two surviving are low. Feeling hatred towards your partner is not something you spring back from.
If you are angry at the way they chew or breathe, you have a problem.
You have stopped arguing
While this may sound like heaven on earth, it is actually not a great sign if you and your partner never argue. For a better relationship, you both need to be able to argue and speak your mind.
You have not had sex in ages
Sex can dwindle as a long-term relationship goes on, but do take note if you look up one day and realize it is been, well, you are not even sure how long since the last time you had sex. The number one signs of a failing relationship are the disappearance of sex.
They don’t listen to you
When you speak, whether about the weather or about your day at work, they don’t listen to you. Your partner may nod their head, but they are no longer actively listening or engaging with you in conversation.
In other words, they are creating emotional separation and distance.
You let them do whatever they want
When you were in love, watching your partner check out other people drove you nuts with jealousy. But now, they could walk up to someone and ask for their number, you would not even flinch. One of the clearest signs of a failing relationship is when you stop caring what they do; instead, you are tolerating them until the relationship is over.
These signs are all little symptoms of a failing relationship or issues that can make things fail. Once you notice them, speak up asap. If the relationship is worth saving, you and your partner can work together by having open communication to make thing better.