We get aroused by almost anything, anywhere and anytime. Be it pregnant ladies, balloons and yes of course, how can we forget about the feet! Fetishes are weird, technically it refers to an attraction to an inanimate object, although this includes body parts. And when talking about Kinks, well, these are sexual activities that fall outside of sex that society traditionally considers acceptable. So, if you’re curious about exploring the subject here’s a sex dictionary or should we call it the sextionary to better orient you in the world of Kinks.
A is for AGE PLAY
Age play is a form of role-playing where both partners treat or pretend to be an age other than their own. A common example of light age play is “Sugar daddy dominant- Baby girl.”
B is for BONDAGE
The B in ‘BDSM’ stands for bondage. It is a sex act that involves restraining sexual pleasure of a partner by another. Here partners enjoy being tied up or tying their partner using handcuffs or rope, and teasing them.
C is for CUCKOLDING
Yes, people do have these kinds of weird sexual fantasies and CUCKOLDING being the most common (sextionary).
D is for DOMINANCE
Dominance falls under the umbrella of ‘BDSM’ It involves a dominant partner who is willing to take control over the sexual pleasures of a submissive partner.
It involves the consent of both partners. Basically, what Christian did to Anna in Fifty shades of grey.
E is for ELECTROSTIMULATION
This involves people actually giving their partners little electric shocks in order turn each other on. There are love toys made specifically for this purpose and are safe to use.
F for FOOT FETISH
It is an extremely common fetish out there. A person with a foot fetish could potentially get off on everything ‘feet’. They have this weird sexual desire to worship feet through massage, kissing smelling and what not. *shrugs*
G is for GAGGING
Gagging in context of sex means lightly choking on your guy’s erect penis to the point of making gagging sounds that gets him off. It generally happens when you’re deep-throating him.
H is for HUMILIATION
A common example of humiliation is name-calling and verbal abuse. Turns out, many women are aroused when called names and actually like being called names during sex such as “b*tch,” “sl*t,” or “wh*re.”
I is for IMPACT PLAY
It is a sex act that refers to the use of hands, whips, belts, paddles or whatever stuff you have around your house to hit the body. It involves spanking your partner, lightly choking their throat, whipping, etc.
Remember this act is only acceptable when there’s mutual consent.
J is for JAPANESE BONDAGE
It is a type of bondage that is typically done with ropes. In Japanese, it’s called “Kinbaku” that translates to “the beauty of tight binding” and “Shibari” that means “Decoratively tie.”
K is for KLISMAPHILIA
Klismaphilia means “arousal by enemas”. Enemas are used by hospitals to relieve people of constipation or to prep for some medical practices.
Since people with freaky fascinations are weird, they have been using this device for sexual pleasure forever.
L is for LIMITS-LESS
If you and your partner want to incorporate ‘BDSM’ into your sexual life it is important to make a list of your soft and hard limits that you’re unsure of if they’re right for you or certain that they’re off-limits.
Choose a safe word for when your limits are being exceeded.
M is MASOCHISM
Someone into this kind of sexual act is a person that gets turned on or derives sexual pleasure from pain. If you like being spanked, whipped or humiliated in bed, you might be a masochist.
N is for NYLONS
A person with Nylon fetish may enjoy looking and feeling of toes, feet, and legs wrapped tightly in nylon stockings. They like smelling and sucking on the nylon-wrapped toes that really sexually arouses them.
O is for OBJECTUM SEXUALITY
It refers to the sexual attraction of a person towards an object. This includes being obsessed with anything- lingerie, feet, pleasure toys, and even sex dolls.
P is for PREGGOPHILIA
Also known as Pregnancy Fetishism. This refers to having a sexual attraction to a pregnant person. Pregnancy fetishists go crazy or the sight of a swollen, round belly of a pregnant woman.
Q is for QUIROFILIA
A fetish for hands. A hand fetishist not only gets off on handjobs, fisting, fingering or massaging but many times they derive sexual pleasures from hands doing mundane things, such as washing the dishes, picking up groceries or just fiddling around with them.
R is for ROLEPLAY
It is a sexual play that involves getting all dressed up, pretending to be someone else and seducing your partner. You can dress up as a teacher, nurse or your favourite fictional characters to make those sexual fantasies come alive.
S is for SPECTROPHILIA
Spectrophilia means simply the sexual attractions to ghosts or spirits. People with this kind of creepy fascination report having sexual encounters with ghosts who come and have sex with them at night.
T is for TENTACLES
Well well well, what do we have here. People getting off on tentacle porn? Yes, this fetish exists. People with this strange fascination are sexually attracted to an actual real octopus or octopus-like monster with tentacles.
U is for UROPHILIA
It’s a thing with people who find urination sexually arousing. The most common way people enjoy pee is to give or receive golden showers. Yes, you got it right. Pee showers. You let your partner shower you (vice-versa) with their pee.
V is for VOYEURISM
A voyeur is a person who derives sexual gratification from watching other people engaging in sex. LIVE!
So, if you sneakily enjoy watching your neighbors having sex. Voila amigo, You’re a creep. Or we could just call you a Voyeur.
W is for WHIP
Whips are tools and toy used for impact play. Though it technically refers to a tool with a thinner body that produces more of a “stingy” sensation when used.
X is for waX PLAY
Candlelit dinners would be a perfect moment to try wax play. Wax play is using melted wax for painfully good sexual pleasures. There are massage candles, candles that burn at a temperature perfect for bodies, and scented candles made specifically for this purpose.
Just watch out for fire and skin burns.
Y is for YONI EGG
A yoni egg is an egg-shaped device inserted inside the vagina as the pelvic floor muscles tighten their grip to hold the egg in place. Strong pelvic floor muscles can make sex feel much better and orgasms more intense.
Z is for ZAPPER
A zapper is a name given for an electro-wand that is used as part of electrostimulation. They typically look like a magic wand that Harry Potter would use, except they’re used to send shocks to the body. So don’t Avada-Kedavra your bae away.
Now that you’re all informed about the Kinks and fetishes. Try some of the sextionary acts in bed and take your sex life up a notch!