Sex therapists or we could call them “The Sexperts” have the best job in the world. They get paid for helping people be better lovers. Behind those closed doors a sex therapist is asked about all the weird and intimate matters.
Here are a few things that a sex therapist would want you to know to expand your notions of erotic pleasures and your definition of sex.
1. Better Communication= Better Sex
Most of the intimate problems couples have tracked down to one thing: poor communication. It is the biggest barrier to intimacy in any relationship.
So, set aside some time to just openly communicate with each other in order to reconnect and rekindle your feelings.
This is where the fun begins!
2. Always Use A Sex Mantra
Having a mantra is something to tell yourself before or during a sex session. For most people, it has proven to be a huge confidence booster. It helps in channelizing your sexual energy leading to an increase in sexual desires.
3. Sex Can Be Great Without Orga*m
Sure, sex is all about pleasures and desires. But most people focus on scoring orga*ms and that isn’t what good sex is all about. The more you steer away from performance-related sex and focus on pleasures and what works best for you both, the more you’ll enjoy it.
It’s all about enjoying the show and not just the climax. (If you what I mean)
4. Sock During Sex?
Wearing socks during sex is a major controversial topic. But, According to a study it was found that women who wear socks during sex are more likely to orga*m.
Plus, socks makes us feel cozy and they might appeal to your partner. (Yes, Sock fantasies are a thing!)
So you wanna rock? Just slip on a sock!
5. Turn Up The Sound
Research shows that exaggerating our moans during sex helps both men and women. Those sounds tell your brain it’s really horny. You’ll be amazed to see how the body responds to that, resulting in more arousal and pleasure.
6. Size Doesn’t Matter
Studies show that size does not really matter. It’s not only the researchers, but, sex therapists, girlfriends, and wives believe that-
It’s not the size of the boat, but how they captain it matters.
7. Sex Should Be Fun
Sex should not be seen as a way to get close to your partner when you’re horny. But, it should also focus on pleasure and connection, to get playful in bed and enjoy each other.
Try something new with your partner. And find all kinds of other ways to turn each other on. Make it fun and sexy.
8. Watching Adult Films Together
A study at Queen’s University, Ontario found that women who watched po*n got aroused even though they weren’t aware of it. Perhaps, this could work well to turn you on and warm up before you hit it off.
9. Women Can Orga*m Without Touch
And that’s a fact! The female mind is so sexually powerful, they can climax simply by fantasizing about sex or reading an erotic fiction or listening to erotic podcasts.
10. The Best Bex = Dirty Sex
There will be noises, there will be fluids, there will be smells, there may even be bl*od. Sex just gets dirtier and messier. But learning to accept this raw human experience can really take things up a notch allowing you to enjoy sex more fully.