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A lot of couples and individuals dread the idea of going to a sex therapist because they are afraid or are embarrassed to talk about the most private aspect of their lives: sex. Because a common misconception about sex therapists is that they deal only with problems which are concerning about sex.
However, as a lot of sex therapists and their clients will tell you, sex therapy also involves fixing issues about your personality, how you handle intimacy, how you express your sexuality and your relationship with your partner. After all, these are crucial elements that makeup how you behave in the bedroom.
What is sex therapy, anyway?
A lot of people seek the help of a sex therapist due to impotence and other physical debilitation that affects their sexual performance. Aside from this, however, sex therapists also deal with those who have a hard time expressing themselves sexually.
Signs you need sex therapy
If you experience a hard time this problem persists for two weeks or more, this is a sign that there could be a deeper underlying issue that needs to be looked at by a professional.
This is the same for other performance-related issues that are out of your control.
Sex should give you pleasure. If you feel unusual pain while having sex, chances are, you *and or your partner* have health-related problems. Consulting a therapist can help you find the best medical-based advice on what positions will best lessen the pain, what positions and deeds are most comfortable, and what techniques you can employ to make the most of your time in bed.
Might be you don’t have a partner and you are used to having a go at it on your own. Then suddenly, you find yourself not reaching climax. Again, if this problem is continues for a few months, or each time you masturbate, this can be due to an underlying issue that an expert can help sort out for you.
Addiction or shame
Today, many more people are coming out with their addiction to sex or porn. As for you, you may find yourself questioning your own sexual habits and you may want to sort out why you are feeling ashamed, guilty, and secretive about your sexual preferences or habits.
By going to a sex therapist, you can have a better perspective of what you are going through, and determine whether or not you have a porn or sex addiction.
It may start with casual teasing about how your partner slept on you as you were about to do the deed but then it happens again and again—so much so that you start to bicker about it. If you’re arguing about your sex life and are complaining about it, it can help to seek a therapist before your problems in bed overflow to other aspects of your relationship.
If your intimacy issues and sexual performance are causing a strain on your relationship, this is also a good reason to bring in a sex therapist. Maybe you are not having as much sex as you used to, or you are not performing well in bed, and this is causing your partner a great deal of frustration or disappointment that carries over, out of the bedroom.
After all, a lack of sex can cause distance between couples and can also cause frequent bickering.
If you want to enjoy sex and save your relationship with your partner again, you really should go to a therapist.
There will be very few cases when people have an unhealthy outlook on sex, whether due to their personal beliefs, or behavior. If you are like this and you are scared of having sex or traumatized about sex or would describe yourself as absolutely not into sex and this affects not just your relationships *if you have had any* but the way you deal with people, this can also be a red flag for you to seek counseling from a sex therapist.
Sex is a natural phenomenon and humans are fortunate to experience it in a way that can blow our minds. However, there is also a psychology and science behind sex. Talking to a sex therapist about your problems or concerns regarding sex can greatly improve not only your sex life, but your overall quality of life.
The key is to be open-minded and honest enough to let someone in on the private details of your sex life. After all, it’s better to get to the root of the problem before it gets worse and destroys not only yourself and your happiness but also that of the people around you.
Everyone will have experienced, or will experience, a sexual problem at some point. Even couples who seem perfect may have undesirable secrets that they’d rather hide behind closed doors.
Some problems are easily fixed, while others need the expertise of a sex therapist.
If you are able to relate to one or more of signs above, as awkward as you may feel, that is your cue to head to a sex therapist and talk about your problem.