You are no stranger to warped feelings of sex and intimacy — Unsexy— mentioned right now. Just know, you are not alone.
With pandemic anxiety spiraling out of control — the way we do, see and feel things has changed. Sex, passion, desire, and all the other things that were pleasurable once, is no exception. Besides your emotions changing almost every other day, you will also face some unforeseen and tough changes to your private life including feeling unsexy. This may include sex, masturbation, and everything else your heart desires.
1. Feeling horny — all day, every day
This one has to be said. For many people, the feeling has undoubtedly been no holds barred. It’s all one can think of. Maybe because there’s all the time in the world and space in your head to think of nothing else. It won’t even come as a surprise if you indulge in masturbation for the fifth time in a day.
2. Killing boredom with masturbation
There are some people who end up being a homebody, and turn to masturbation for relief. You might have exhausted all of Netflix’s content. You may have read all the books on your bookshelf. You might even be tired of socializing. So, to kill time, you end up giving a helping hand to yourself, just out of boredom.
3. Pleasuring yourself is not better anymore
You know what they say… you can’t have too much of a good thing. With all the time in the world, indulging in self-pleasure is natural and so do feeling unsexy!
But what happens when you indulge in it way too much? It gets mundane and seems like a chore. Which will lead to taking a break from what seemed fun initially, until things go back to normal. (If it ever will.)
4. Sex feels meh
You might be among the lucky ones living with your partners and sex is not an issue. But are you having trouble living in the moment to enjoy it? Because of the uncertainty that comes with the pandemic, it is getting harder by the day to arouse yourself, thanks to stress, and the wandering mind that just can’t stop thinking for a couple of minutes.
5. Sex life is amped up
For some people, they just can’t keep their hands off each other. Imagine being in quarantine with the love of your life and being reminded or just coming into realization about what made you fall in love with him/her; or their attractiveness as a partner. Easy turn-on, right? Also, this might be the only time in your lives where you and your partner will be spending 24/7 with each other.
6. Feeling unsexy can be a thing
You can be single. You could have multiple virtual partners. But when it comes to sexting and exchanging pictures of your precious ones, you might take a pass on that. And guess what? It’s normal. We mean —
Wearing the same clothes for weeks, eating all day long out of boredom, and not shaving at all does have its effects.
7. You crave touch more than sex
Most people in the world right now are more touch-deprived than they are sex-deprived. It could be a cuddle, holding hands, or something as simple as a hug. The six-feet apart rule can make one miss things that have been taken for granted in the pre-pandemic world.
8. Pre-pandemic and the pandemic world feels the same
As you’re going through this list, you might not connect with any of the notions. Which is still cool. Because there may be people who will find it thoroughly entertaining seeing their opposites go loco for the lack of sex. And for that, they can feel grateful as they may have 99 problems in the world, but sex ain’t one.
Just as things are changing every single day, how you view sex and intimacy also changes accordingly.
One day you may feel sexy, and on the other feeling unsexy — It is natural to go through these phases during this ‘new norm.’ The only thing that matters now is to breathe and take each day as it comes.