Queefing — “What’s that sound? Wait… did it just come out of my vagina?”
Raise your hands if you’ve experienced this awkwardness in the middle of sex, or while working out. Although we can’t see your hands aloft, know that we know. (Only the true F.R.I.E.N.D.S fans know about this)
The phenomenon where a fart noise comes out of your vagina is known as queefing, aka vagina farts. A totally normal bodily function, queefing may occur while you’re changing positions from doggy style to missionary and vice versa, or while going down low to squat.
It is common to feel embarrassed in such situations; but it needn’t be so. Everyone has their quirks, and for us women, the one we have in common is the vagina farts that slip out at less-than-ideal moments. Your genitals don’t care what you’re doing, or even whom you’re doing. Vaginas are complicated, really. If you’ve always wondered why we queef, here’s everything you need to know.
What is queefing, really?
A queef is a sound that occurs as the vagina releases air. It’s a not-so-crude term for vagina farts. Who wants to hear “farting” when they’re busy getting naughty, or settling into the downward dog position? No one, that’s right! But, in a nutshell, that’s what queefing is.
There are a few women who can queef intentionally (IKR?!!), while there’s air trapped inside the vagina. But queefing is something one generally can’t control as it is an involuntary response. It happens as the folds that are settled at the end of the vaginal tube, called rugae, get trapped with air, leading to a not-so-blissful queef.
So, why does queefing happen?
To understand more about queefing, we women need to dive deep into understanding our anatomy. So, to start things off, try inserting your finger into the vagina. You’ll feel the pelvic floor that’s around 4 inches thick. And right above that lies the vaginal chamber and the cervix sit atop of it, which is the gateway to the womb. After that you’d reach between two spots: the pelvic floor and the bottom of the cervix.
The vagina rarely has any airflow, but, when you’re aroused, things open up. Firstly, the chambers to the vagina open up, which allows plenty of room between your cervix and pelvic floor. The tendons inside pull up the bladder and womb, which allows plenty of room. This means, air gets into the vagina.
Depending on how you switch up the position, once the penetration begins, your organs inside the vagina move, and compressions occur against the lower belly. When this happens, air slips out sounding like a fart during intercourse, orgasm, or even during exertion.
Do you feel embarrassed?
Because of the cultural norms of society, we’re wired to feel embarrassed about a normal bodily function, even when it’s scaling how excited or turned on we are. If your partner is mortified during sex, they need to understand that the arousal level is almost off the charts. So, let your partner know that they’re doing a great job. In fact, your partner should be gratified by how much space you’ve made to accommodate them.
There’s nothing to feel ashamed of. It’s a normal thing, just like sneezing. So, the fact that you queef while you’re doing the deed, should not be embarrassing. Instead, just laugh it off with your partner. And if you’re dating someone who thinks it’s “unladylike” or gets disgusted by queefing, then you should probably pack up and leave.
Queefing is common. So, stop being so hung up and laugh about it. Vaginas are indeed mystical. Am I right or am I right? Let’s hear your queefing stories in the comments below.