Ideally, we want to lose our virginity to someone we love and trust. As much as we want our first time to be perfect, there is not much we can do to change the circumstances, once it happens. The main thing is that losing our virginity is completely always our choice.
If anyone thinks that they can take that away from you, run away and ask for help. Situations like that are categorized as coercion or rape. Losing your v-card might or might not be a beautiful thing, but the point is that you are the one who should decide when and where it happens.
If you decide to lose your virginity to a one-night stand, make sure that you have thought it through. It may seem adventurous and exciting, but there are risks involved. Not just physical risks, but also emotional and mental issues.
What are the risks involved?
Losing your virginity to someone you love is just as scary as losing it to someone you hardly knows. The difference is that you are essentially safer with someone you know because the person you know would be more likely to help you handle the consequences of getting your cherry popped.
Even though sex is the best thing ever, there are still a lot of risks involved. Aside from STD’s and unplanned pregnancies, you could end up being involved with someone who hurts you emotionally and physically.
How to prepare for it?
Once you have established that it is okay to lose your virginity to a stranger, it is not wise for you to just go with the flow. No matter how excited you are at the prospect of trying something new, you need to be prepared.
If you think that this is going to be a regular occurrence – which is something that you should really think about – go to your doctor and ask them what you need to do to prepare for sex.
What happens next?
Process of having sex for the first time with a stranger
Should you admit it?
Always admit to the person you are sleeping with that you are a virgin. Even if they are only in it for just sex, many people are still iffy about taking someone’s virginity. For some, it’s a prize. For others, it is just a whole lot of baggage that they don’t want to get involved with.
Don’t start anything without making sure that your partner will be wearing a condom. I don’t care if you are on the most powerful birth control pills or antibiotics on earth. Insist on it. Leave, if your partner refuses to wear one. This is non-negotiable.
When does it happen?
It happens when you and your partner are ready. If the foreplay turns out to be really, good on his end, your body will respond accordingly and you will find yourself wanting to be, for lack for a better term, f**ked.
Are you going to get an orgasm?
That’s totally up to you and your partner. If he knows how to give you one, there is a chance that you will get one. If it still hurts, the pain may overshadow the pleasure that you are supposed to feel.
What happens after?
Before you engaged in your first sexual intercourse, you should have prepared yourself for every possibility. At this point, you should talk to your partner and tell him what you want. Ask him what he wants, as well.
You can decide to keep seeing each other, but it is possible that one of you won’t want that. Just accept their honest answer and express your own thoughts to them.
This way, you won’t fixate on what happened and can move on with your virginity-less life.
So now that you know what happens when you lose your virginity to a one-night stand, do you think that you are up for it? Think about it, weigh your options and always know that you can always wait for a better, more appropriate time to engage in sex for the first time.