What’s common between long distance relationship and a guy in bed? – Both of them are hard.
Only reactions people tend to give when you tell them you are in a long distance relationship is “It will not work”, “You are kidding yourself”, “You are going to get depressed” and the worst you can get is “One of you will cheat”.
But still, you know you are going to do it because LOVE is a drug and well, you are an addict. So let us be the Mr.Miyagi you need to survive this whole deal.
Here we present you with 14 no bull$h!t ways that will help you sail through the storm named long distance.
1. Be sexy with each other
It’s given that the distance is going to test both of you emotionally and sexually. Intimacy is the key to all relationships. So don’t let miles come in between your naughty dirty life. Talk sexy on phone, indulge in sexting; things like double entendres, sexy puns, or even just reminders that you both find each other sexually attractive is all it takes to
keep that fire going.
2. Do things together
Who said you can’t do choreographed dance sequence sitting in different continents? Okay! Maybe not dance but there are a plethora of things you can do together (All thanks to technology). Movie nights, singing sessions while other person plays some instrument, online gaming, pizza dates through Skype, go on a long walk while video calling or have political debates if you guys are into it.
The world is your oyster.
3. Be creative with communication
Obviously, you guys are going to talk a lot (If not then please don’t dive deep in this long distance war because it is based on all that talk talk talk). But this talk business can get monotonous and routinish. So you better up your game. Daily good mornings and good nights are indeed needed but don’t just stop at that. Send audio clips, images, random rambling, talk about stupid mundane things and moments.
Make them part of your daily life even if they are thousand miles apart.
4. However, don’t overdo it
It isn’t healthy if you are connected to your bae at all waking hours. When you’re in the same city, do you communicate every second of the day? We don’t think so. So don’t do it when you’re in different cities, or you’ll become exhausted and you’ll lose that spark that makes you two so great together.
5. Personal gifts
Who doesn’t love being surprised with a thoughtful gift? NO ONE! (Unless you boring). When you are far away from each other, having something physical from your significant other that you can touch and feel can be orgasmic. This doesn’t have to be expensive. Something small and something personal, a memento that has sentimental value to both of you would work just fine.
Bring out the writer in you and send a touchy letter in the world of blue ticks.
6. Know each other’s schedule
This would greatly enhance the sync between you as a couple and helps you avoid that awkward situation where one of you wants to talk but the other one is busy is something. Ask them when there are free gaps in their schedule and plan a five minutes rendezvous.
After all, you don’t want your partner sexting you in the middle of a business meeting. (Cue awkward boner)
7. Visit each other
Now, what is a long distance relationship if it doesn’t come with little escapades in between? Plan a trip together in between, surprise your lover with a random visit, take a break and visit someplace together. And you know meeting after months of hiatus will be like fireworks, glitter bombs, confetti, rainbows and butterflies everywhere.
8. Be rationale
By rationale, we mean that at the end of the day you know both of you have lives to live. Don’t put restrictions in the name of love which snatches away other person’s freedom. Both you must meet friends, have time for respective families, enjoy your alone time and don’t be just dependent on this said person for all your happiness.
“Once trust is built, distance cannot kill it. Time and space alone cannot destroy authentic connection.” – Vironika Tugaleva
9. Trust your relationship
THE MOST COMMON PROBLEM – INSECURITY. You have to be confident that your relationship will survive. At the heart of this is trust. It’s like a trust fall. You will never know if your partner will catch you unless you fall. So dive deep and trust that the person who is willing to sacrifice the comforts of a regular relationship will always be there for you.
10. Avoid dangerous situations.
Let’s assume the new person at the office asks you for a drink after work. To you, it might seem like a harmless office friendship, but to your significant other on the other side of the world, it could mean anything. Innocent or not, putting yourself in such a tense situation is never a good idea for a relationship surviving on a single thread of trust.
Either be very open about your intentions or have your partner in the loop all the time so nothing takes them by a surprise.
11. Make sure it’s temporary.
Like everything in your fridge, make sure you long distance relationship also has an expiry date. A set deadline so that both of you can work towards that one goal when the distance between you two will be just a matter of another side of the bed. This will give both of you a better idea of
how long the “long distance” portion of the relationship will last.
12. Be positive
Optimism and honesty are the scales on which your relationship balances. There would be times when extreme sadness will overpower you and you will feel helpless. As a team makes sure that when one of you goes down, other one pulls him/her right back.
Patience is the key to unlock this long distance torture.
13. Be honest and don’t lie
You may not believe it but your partner can always feel when you lie. It might be a change in your behavior, your schedule, or two or three lies running into each other; whatever it is, your partner will notice. And at this point in time, your honesty is the best thing that you can give.
So all the Pinocchios out there better be on their best behavior
14. Enjoy your alone time
It sucks but if you start resenting the time when you are alone then it might just turn you into Mr. Negative Pants. With no one to hug, hold, and cuddle, you may start to feel unbearably lonely, to the point where you feel like giving up your relationship for a closer meaningless alternative.
Solution- Give yourself some time to grow as a person. When you wish like having your partner with you, just replace that with a sense of fullness drawn from your own self-love.
We know long distance relationship sucks but imagine how great sex will be when you finally meet. (Wink wink)