The idea of falling in love is an incredible and beautiful one. It has been described as an experience of a lifetime. Though Shakespeare said, “Whoever loves, loves at first sight,” many people still argue that love at first sight, is not real love but a mere powerful emotion called lust.
It may be applicable in Netflix and Hollywood movies since it’s reel life, but in real life, things don’t work that way. Do you believe in love at first sight? Can you really fall in love with someone when you first see them?
It sounds dreamy, but is it a romantic myth or a scientific fact?
Well, find out for yourself.
Love
To understand the concept behind love at first sight, you need to know what true love really is. When it comes to love, it is hard to find a definite explanation of this feeling.
Poets, philosophers, and writes describe it as an emotion that changes the way your whole body feels. You feel affection, protectiveness, care, warmth, and respect for that special someone.
While scientists describe love as measurable changes in the body when your brain releases a jumble of chemicals like dopamine (pleasure), adrenaline rush and norepinephrine.
Love means different things to different people.
Love At First Sight
Love at first sight, as many people describe it, is an instant attraction towards someone when you first see them. You feel a zing and an electric spark in between.
You see their face and your whole world stops for a moment and everything blurs into oblivion, everything but their face. Your heart rate picks up and you get an adrenaline rush, but does that actually mean you’re in love?
Here are reasons love at first sight, doesn’t exist and is complete bulls*it
It’s Actually A Terrible Idea
Love is emotional, intimate and deep-rooted, so believing that you’ve found “the one” the minute you lay your eyes on them is plain crap. Think about it. Anything that lasts doesn’t happen immediately and without effort. There’s infatuation at first glance- which can be really amazing and exciting- and someday it may even lead to love.
Love doesn’t come by attraction but by affection.
Anyone Who Says They’ve Experienced It Is A Liar
When your friend says their meeting with their significant other was love at first sight, get up, lean towards them, look them right in the eye and tell them to simply S-T-F-U. Because they’re lying!
Okay, maybe don’t do that to your grandparents when they tell their story, but you get the idea right? You might be attracted to someone upon seeing them, but you can’t right away fall in with someone you know absolutely nothing about.
Love Really Shouldn’t Be Developed By ‘Sight’
If you think you’re really in love with the person you met at the party the other day then let me tell you sweetie, this feeling of yours could just be an obsession or lust. Love is something more than just the physical appearance of a person and an introduction of who they are.
Love doesn’t happen of a sudden; it takes a little time to grow and to build that intimate connection.
It Isn’t Based On Anything That Really Matters
Ok, so being attracted to one another matters, but not when it comes to developing a long-lasting relationship. A healthy love life requires more than just admiring the looks.
It isn’t what actually makes you love someone. I mean why anybody would want someone to fall for them because of their appearance alone instead of loving who they really are.
It Might All Be In Your Head
The reason why your relationship has been intact for so many years is not that you fell in love with them at first sight. It is because you felt an attraction towards them when you first met.
It is long-lasting and romantic because of what came after- the connection, the compatibility, the support, loyalty and a whole lot of other feelings.
Stop dreaming that teenage cliché fantasy and start living in the real world.
