Dating is tough. Being married is even tougher. But the toughest part about both of them is when you have a feeling that your partner is cheating on you.
“Infidelity is not even a roller coaster ride but a downright plane crash.”
Nobody likes it unless you are the one cheating and having the most of it.
If the title of this article made you click on it in less than one second, the possibility is you already suspect that you are a victim of infidelity, or at the very least that something is amiss in your relationship. Signs of your partner cheating on you may vary from relationship to relationship but there are common human tendencies which are common to all these cheaters. After all, not many people are down to have a love triangle.
1. Putting effort into appearances
Do you find yourself giving too many compliments to your partner lately? Have your partners usual attire has a little bit of spunk and crispiness to it these days? Chances are that they are trying to impress someone. If your sweatpants hoarder is suddenly worrying if that tie is going with those shoes or that lip shade is perfect with those earrings, then this may indicate an affair. This is especially true if this effort is shown only when they are going out to the office or other social events without you.
2. A new schedule
Once you notice your partner is increasingly canceling plans for ‘work’-related things consistently, this is cause for concern. Sudden prolonged hours at work, stretched meetings, taking long office calls at home, or a newly found wanderlust for business trips may signal his career growth but might also be due to their increased interest somewhere else.
3. Possessive about their phone or laptop
Them guarding these two things as if their lives depend on it and having new passwords on them (Or even calling them ‘my precious’) are not a good sign for your relationship. Trust being the foundation of any relationship, having secrets and sudden concerns related to privacy is points out to them having issues with you.
4. Unusual increase or decline in affection towards you
Less sex occurs when your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up. A study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that when a person’s partner is cheating, that partner will start to make obvious attempts to increase your satisfaction in the relationship. It’s a misdirection ploy to lessen your suspicions of their guilt.
5. Unexpected lavish expenses hidden from you
If you happen to share bank accounts or are aware of your partner’s financial spending, increased ATM withdrawals are a warning sign for their attention being shifted to someone else. Your partner doing other secretive things like restricting credit card account access or hiding all mail/bank statements from you must raise questions inside of you.
6. Defensive when you want to talk to them
Stonewalling you, blaming you, passive aggression when you show concerns towards them are not a part and parcel of a healthy relationship. This hostility towards you or your relationship might be their way of dealing with their guilt. Them pushing you away is their mind trying to justify their actions. Turning tables is one of the book examples of how cheaters behave.
7. Emotional intimacy has long vanished
Emotional intimacy is what keeps you going when your relationship has been going on since the stone age. So any change in this emotional connection with your partner is a very visible and a strong indication that their focus has shifted — most likely to an affair partner.
8. They’re super stressed or upset all the time
This one is one of the most common occurrences for a human to go through once in a while. The weight that affairs carry on the person trying to keep them a secret is heavy. They may feel bad and not know what to do about it or they could be trying to push you away.
9. They avoid PDA
If your partner who always wanted to hold your hands or give you an unexpected kiss in public, is suddenly avoiding you like a plague then this points to that something is up. This shift in their normal behavior is a reason for concern.
10. They can’t maintain eye contact with you
When people lie, they can’t face people they are close to. When this happens, it’s time to do some digging and unearth the reasons behind your partner’s unusual behavior. Eyes are a telltale of what goes in one’s heart.
You must keep in mind that all these signs are very normal to occur once in a while and it doesn’t mean that partner is sniffing around the park. But these remain indications that something is wrong in their life or your relationship.
An occurrence of these signs in a bundle might want you to investigate a little bit more. Always be on your toes.