Talking dirty is in. You use explicit sexual language for your partner when you’re in a bit of an intimate situation. Why do you use it?
Because it felt good? What can ensue from this is either you and your partner burst out laughing or your partner ignores it and opts for silence in response to your dirty talk.
- Simple is sexy
- Make flattery… a little sexy
- Read erotica
- Make use of all the sensory organs
- Always ask questions
- Laugh it off
Many people use the under-appreciated ‘dirty talk’ because they think it’s hot. In fact, many studies suggest that people who communicate how they feel during sexual intercourse are more likely to experience extreme pleasure and satisfaction than those who don’t. Whenever you use it, or wherever rather, be it in the kitchen or at a bar, those sexy phrases can come across differently, depending on the situation: either naughty, hot, and awkward or plain filthy and disgusting.
Now, if your partner is into erotic chatter, and you’re not, talking dirty can seem daunting. Hence, we’ve dished on a few tips for how to talk dirty without feeling like an awkward duck.
1. Simple is sexy
It needn’t be too detailed. The trick here is to say things that are happening or things you want to happen. Trigger sentences could be anything from “I want”, “I feel”, or “I need”.
Just ease into it. Once you feel like you’re comfortable using simple phrases, you can up your game by being more elaborate.
2. Make flattery… a little sexy
You know what they say… flattery will take you places. This holds true especially during sex, and for people who consider ‘words of affirmation’ as their love language. Just communicate with your partner regarding what feels great or if you’re feeling turned on with what’s going on.
Before you begin with the experiment, ask your partner what they’d like to hear about their body. If they like to hear how tight, sexy, and warm (among other adjectives) they are, then use them to your heart’s content.
3. Read erotica
One of the best ways to ease into erotic chatter is by reading an erotic novel out loud to your partner. Flip through pages until a steamy part comes along, and read them out loud, sexily. Doing so, you get to be more comfortable using raunchy lingo, and if it gets awkward at any point, you know that it’s not coming from you, but it’s just the book that saves you from that emotional risk.
4. Make use of all the sensory organs
If you love the taste of your partner, let them know. If you love the way your partner moans and grunts, whisper it in their ear. These are the little things that matter while talking dirty. Imagine hearing or saying, “I love to see you bent over for me”, “I love the taste of you”, or “I love the smell”. These phrases can make a situation extremely sexy, leading to a hotter sex situation.
5. Always ask questions
Consent is always important. And it comes in handy, while you incorporate dirty talking into your sexual repertoire. Asking if your partner likes it, how they’re feeling, or if they want more of it, will only land you more brownie points.
6. Laugh it off
Worried that you may sound silly? Who cares?! Sex is supposed to be fun, and hot. It’s not fair for anyone to put so much pressure on dirty talking lingo or sex. Just have fun!
All in all, talking dirty is a way of banter… a dirty banter. It’s time to tap into your inner sex god/goddess and arouse and surprise your partner with your newly-found lingo like never-before.