We have all seen it. Movies, books
The main culprit here is the porn industry.
They have you believe that loud noises, certain positions, and specific situations are necessary for a successful romp in the sack. We’re in a world that complains when women are loud and complain when women aren’t loud enough. So what’s the deal? Should they make noises? Should they remain quiet? The perception is far from the real truth though. We’re here to decode everything you know about being vocal during sex and tell you that there are no specific prerequisites for great sex. So men, hold on to hats because you’re going to need it for this one.
What research says?
According to the research, 66 percent of woman that the sounds they made were actually a part of the big finish rather than an effect of something the man was doing. Their main reason why women loud during sex was to get the guy to orgasm faster and more efficiently. Quite a shocking discovery, isn’t it?
What’s more, a full 87 percent of women said that they made noises to boost the guy’s ego and make him feel manlier. A few said that the noises they made were to just distract themselves from pain, discomfort or actual boredom. Ouch. That’s certainly not the standing ovation one needs, is it? The surprising thing, however, is that studies on copulating vocal never tested men’s sounds, only women’s.
Even though that’s not enough for this research, it was still enough to tell us that women being loud doesn’t mean they are enjoying it.
Same sex relationship
Another study was done to test women’s sounds in a situation with lesbian women. It was discovered that lesbians made
What we can definitely take from this research is that straight women feel a lot more pressure to make sounds and display their “pleasure” as opposed to lesbian couples where they made sounds only when they needed to. Women feel like they have to make sounds for a man, in case he thinks he’s not pleasuring them and feels deflated.
The general view
It does help them feel like beasts in bed. It is pretty obvious that women have been smart enough and taken notes.
Women’s magazines everywhere give the impression that if a woman is loud, she is empowered and sexy and confident enough to be vocal during sex. It’s not the ideal advice for people who already have anxieties about sex.
The ultimate pleasurable experience
The fact that pretty much everyone has the idea that a mere touch or just penetration is enough to make a woman convulse and scream in pleasure is a scary situation. It puts an unrealistic pressure on women and causes more anxiety when in fact; a woman should be feeling relaxed and pleasurable. If that were the case, masturbation would be an extremely loud affair. And every woman’s neighbour or housemates would be deeply disturbed, don’t you think so?
This is why loud sex noises make no sense because one can have sex quite happily and quietly. Also, there is a very obvious difference between fake and real and anyone worth his time knows the difference. Some noise does indicate pleasure from both sides. Those sounds are the ones that actually make sense and contribute to the act.
All in, the combination of the physical intimacy and the act itself leads to an ultimate pleasurable experience. That being said, making sounds during sex is not bad. To each her own, I say. Having an unrealistic idea about how a woman should sound is wrong as it prevents the woman from being herself and having an actual orgasm. Being free and having no preconceived notions, a woman is far more likely to have an orgasm. So, loud and wild or quiet and timid, you do you, sister!