Arachnophobia is quite common but this one you haven’t heard of, I’m sure. Genophobia is the fear of having sexual intercourse. It may sound weird to some of you but it’s quite common.
Human, all too human. And as humans, it is only natural for us all to be fearful of something. For some people, it is sex.
Genophobia – How to get over it and do it!
None of us wants to live with the phobia of sex. It’s not something that everybody can relate to or make a song about, like say fear of the dark. Sex alone is a topic of great importance that is never talked about.
Genophobia is an even bigger issue and not many of us even know about it. Sex can be a usual activity for you as well. You may need support getting there but with the right partner, you may even find it is easy.
Here we go:
Get to the root
You probably did not develop the fear of sex overnight. Like any other deeply rooted phobia, Genophobia may too be caused by something else.
Ask yourself if you have any past incidents where you were a victim of or falsely accused of sexual abuse? Do you have body-confidence issues? What happened to you that you got to this point?
Every phobia stems from a seed that makes firm roots in your mind. The first step towards eradicating it is finding the root.
Be aware of its symptoms
As someone with Genophobia, you need to know what it does to you. Whether you are watching a sex scene in a movie or you’re making out with your partner, you may experience these.
This may be a subjectively different mix for everyone but some common symptoms include panic, terror, sweating, crying, short breath, avoidance, increased heart-rate and shivering.
There is no sure-short
Like one person suffering from Genophobia may have symptoms slightly or drastically different from another, the same may be the way to go about removing the phobia.
Getting over this is not by any means impossible but it is certainly going to take a while.
Have a support system
Talking to a therapist may not sound like a welcome idea to everybody but it is certainly worth a shot. You see, you may not be able to answer all the questions you have on your own. While a therapist will be able to give an unbiased view on the situation. This, in turn, will help you grow out of it.
Now, a support system does not only mean a therapist. Your partner and loved ones from your family are also a part of this. Not being able to have sex may be a problem, not only for you but it could give rise to intimacy issues with your other half too.
They may end up thinking that they are the reason you don’t want to have sex, that they are not attractive to you.
The only way to help them and even yourself is by talking to them. You quell all their thoughts and build a bond based on trust.
The phobia doesn’t define you
Genophobia comes with a bag of anxiety free. Though you may feel anxious all the time, you do not have to accept it. The a
You have the choice to stop your fears from defining you.
Your phobia could simply be caused by your inexperience with it. Maybe you are a virgin and are too scared of being hurt because of it.
Stop watching porn
If your fear is from seeing other women scream in videos, the cause becomes a more complex one. Seeing sex is really different from what happens in real life.
Porn shouldn’t define sex for you.
Long story short – stop watching porn. Porn is not what sex is, never has been and never will be.
Learn about your body
If you are going through Genophobia, you can boost your confidence by learning more about your body. Learn about your genitalia and about the genitalia of the opposite gender.
Learn where the Clitoris, Scrotum, Labia and testicles are. Learning about your and your partner’s body can help. That being said, pornography is not how you want to learn about it.
Find your person
You don’t need to do it with someone when you are not ready. You don’t have to do a one-night-stand you don’t want to. Trying to let go of your phobia can be a very difficult task. It can be made easier by building trust and finding the person that you feel you can trust.
When you form a bond of trust with someone who understands you, they will guide you through your fear with patience and love.
This will make you want to let go of your phobia, give up on your inhibitions and finally enjoy the pleasures of sex you had been missing out on.