Fake it till you make it rule doesn’t apply to Ohh-gasms
Faking gasms does no good to anyone. Neither, it satisfies you as you are focused on faking it rather than enjoying it; nor does it help your partner learn about what you actually need to reach that ultimate high.
In a broader sense, faking it contributes to unrealistic expectations about how actually it work. Yes, you are equally responsible because you are misguiding and misleading your partner into believing something. All this faking is just creating an illusion of a mutually satisfying experience that doesn’t exist in reality.
Want to put an end to faking, try this:
- Convey your expectations before hand: If you are with a new partner, the best thing is to talk about your expectations to them beforehand. If you both are on the same page about your expectations, you will not feel the need to fake anything.
- Do not make Assumptions: Surely, talking about your Big-O can feel nerve-racking, but keep in mind that you are not alone. Most of us get so self-conscious about our orgasmic challenges that we often forget that other people have them too. For all you know, your partner may have their own struggles. And you talking openly about it would be a great relieving factor and can actually add on to your intimacy.
- Be clear with Established Partners: If you’ve been with the same partner for a while and have been faking it the whole time, its best to tell the truth. You have two choices – the complete truth or the half truth. Either you can talk clearly about that you’ve been faking it, or focus your interest in exploring new techniques which will help you jump start your sex life once again.
- Let your Partner know of What You Need in Exactness: There’s no shame in telling your partner what you like. If you know that you like a particular pose, a soft touch here and there or the intensity of something, tell your partner about it. A feedback given well and received well is all it takes. You may even demonstrate the act should you wish because this little guidance can go a long way.
- Pleasure leads to Ohh-gasms and not vice versa: Focusing on the pleasure is the best way to have it. Putting too much focus on it sometimes can take the pleasure away from the entire experience. Yes to climax is important but undue pressure to attain that can actually take the Ahh moment further away.
- Don’t make it the grand finale: The most common reason a person fakesis to let their partner know that sex is over. But you can do that without faking. Remember that, orgasm doesn’t need to be the default ending of sex. If both you and your partner don’t have any problems with it, you can still have plenty of pre- and post pleasure!