Most of us have liked a bit of flashing, and we have also felt an exciting chill run up our ‘sexual-spine’ each time we were almost seen by a hot passer-by on the street.
Exhibitionism is when one gains pleasure or has a compulsion to, exposing their genitals to others.
Dogging is when a couple is having sex in public *or semi-public* spaces in view of others who watch and enjoy the show and possibly masturbate to it. It is like porn with the exception you watch it live. From this, you may ask what is the difference between dogging and exhibitionism.
Compared to exhibitionism, dogging is much more organized and the couple performing the act sends an invitation for “watchers” to come to see them have sex. In short, it’s a mutually-beneficial activity for those with exhibitionist and voyeuristic and fetishes.
As far as the name goes, most believe the term came from a legend of suburban husbands telling their wives they are going out to “walk the dog” but would proceed to the nearest parking lot to watch young couples engage in public sexual activity.
How to set it up
In its early days when social media was still in its infancy, would-be “watchers” would be invited through SMS announcements and early sex-related web forums. The wake of social media and dating websites, announcements for dogging events are much common and easier to find.
In fact, there are existing adult websites that cater specifically to dogging and other fantasies.
What happens afterward?
Normally, it is simply as a random person or a couple of posts an announcement that they will go to a specific spot; usually a car park, sex in public park, any location with public access to give a show.
Aspiring watchers regularly in search of such advertisements immediately go in the said location to catch the event. Dogging is usually initiated by couples, but there are cases of singles who want the adventure of sex with a total stranger while being watched by other strangers as well.
Dogging code of conduct
- No photos or videos
- Providing a clear view
- Lights on
- Leaving the door open
Why do people participate in dogging?
As mentioned, dogging is a sex bonanza where exhibitionists, and people wanting to get laid each receive their own kind of reward. For the exhibitionists, the act of sex in front of a live audience is like a dream come true.
Exhibitionism may be attractive and fun, as long as you remain clean and do not overstep your boundaries.
The exhibitionist in us all
We see a lot of couples making out and groping each other all the time on the dance floors. We see girls who do not need a better tan lie down topless on the beaches. And yet, the word ‘exhibitionist’ seems far more dangerous and taboo. Every one of us has an exhibitionist’s streak in us and can’t wait to show ourselves off at an opportune moment, perhaps when we are far away on a vacation, or when we are at a party where we just don’t care.
Exhibitionism and getting naked in public
Now as a matter of fact, as cute as we are trying to portray exhibitionism to be, the term ‘exhibitionism’ does have its dangerous sexual overtones.
Exhibitionism is a sexual fetish in which sexual arousal and orgasm are obtained on evoking surprise, shock, or panic from a stranger by illicitly exhibiting an erotic part of the body.
But when we are conversing non-literally, we call these men and women who show off body parts as flashers.
Flashers are annoying people, usually men, who love walking up to a girl and striking a pose.
Getting naked and enjoying a better sex life
You don’t have to show off or bare your assets completely. That would just be indecent and inappropriate behavior. As long as it makes you feel sexy, that is the perfect level of skin-show that you need to feel better about yourself.
Let’s face it; you’d fancy a much better sex life once you are feeling horny and fascinating. And there is nothing that can make you feel more desirable than getting an appreciative glance from the opposite sex.
With changing times people are becoming more open about sex so much so that they are having sex in public.
At the end of the day, we can all use a bit of an audience.