What is a virgin? The most basic definition of a virgin is a person who has never had sex, but it’s not quite simple as it seems. Just like sex, virginity means different things to different people. Which leave a lot of room for interpretation and misinterpretations that amounts to a narrow understanding of the issues of virginity, sex and our bodies.
We’re here to debunk all those virginity myths that were carefully constructed by society and are actually BIG FAT LIES-
The Hymen Myth
What is a hymen? A hymen is a thin, fleshy membrane which surrounds the opening of the vagina. Its presence is traditionally believed to be a mark of “Purity” (It had to be put in double quotes for all the right reasons). Scientifically, it does not mark a woman’s virginity in any way.
There are many other ways besides sex that can stretch your hymen like Doing sports, riding a bike, gymnastics, or using a tampon.
Also, there are possibilities for a woman to already have a hole in her hymen or to not even have one. So, all this hymen breaking myth= losing virginity is pure bull sh*t.
Losing your virginity makes your vagina loose
Vaginas have the natural capability to stretch out during sex to accommodate a pe*is. But, they shrink back to their usual size once the arousal state and the sex is over.
Even after many years of having sex the vagina does not become loose. It’s like elastic. And the only thing that can alter the size of your vagina is old age and natural childbirth.
Don’t believe us? Go check out Vagina Anatomy.
Virginity is only lost once
Just like there are several definitions of sex because it means different things to different people, there’s no one way to lose your virginity and it can too mean different things- it’s up to you to decide what counts and when you’ve really ‘lost’ it.
If you masturrr-bate, you’re not a virgin
Mastu*bation is a mere pleasing of oneself and satisfying one’s own sexual desires. And under no circumstance should you believe that mastu*bation takes your virginity away.
I’d say do it more, it gives an insane amount of satisfaction. Plus, helps you understand your body better.
Self love above all.
Sex within marriage is the “healthiest” kind
Now that is another big fat lie that society made us believe. There’s no ideal way to have sex. Marriage or no marriage, the only thing that matters during sex is consent and love.
All kinds of sex are healthy as long as you’re comfortable with your partner and happy doing it.
First-time sex = pain and blood
Many people believe that you will bleed and the sex will be really painful during the first time. Little do they know, it can be really fun and pleasing. Your first time having sex is something you’ll never forget.
Everybody is different and while some women bleed during the first time, some don’t at all. Although it can be a little painful, it all depends on your partner.
Virginity is Purity
Virginity is physical and purity is spiritual
Virginity does not make you pure and its absence does not make you impure either. In no way should a person’s purity be judged by the number of times he has had sex.
Virginity and purity are not synonymous. It’s important that people understand the difference between both the terms.
If anyone tries to tell you otherwise. Tell them to get their facts right.
Now that we’ve busted the myths that society has constructed it’s time you educate others.
