Statistically, the majority of couples signing final divorce papers are citing their reason for divorce as, “My mate is a cheating on me!” …Give or take the colorful language. But to be honest, there are thousands of reasons that a couple may be headed to split, and not all of them are so black and white.
As if divorce is not already enough of a head game, we are looking at weird ways you may be setting your marriage up for failure, and some unreasonable statistics that will have you wanting to kick the crap out of science! These unknown facts about divorce will really leave you scratching your head.
Bizarre unknown facts about divorce
In more than 45% of divorce cases, one person in the marriage had an “obsessive” porn addiction
Why should this contribute to divorce? Study suggests that continuous or obsessive viewing of pornography will increase your infidelity rate by more than 200%! Wanting to avoid divorce? Consider setting that ever-so-tempting laptop aside for a while.
People s*ck at calling it quits—both offline and on
YEAH that’s right, according survey, 60% of participants say they have remained Facebook friends with their exes post-breakup. If you and your ex have a child together, then you might get a pass for staying Facebook friends–but otherwise, we say toss the online friendship! Keeping up to date with your ex’s Facebook woes *or worse, their hookups* will make you want to jab your own eyes out. We like your eyes where they are, so let’s say it together: “Unfriend!”
Are you and your partner both non-smokers?
You’d better hope so! Apparently, if only one of you smokes and the other does not, you are 70-91% more likely to take a trip to the divorce lawyer’s office.
Think you can leave your spouse for someone else and it works
Up to 80% of couples who marry as a result of an extra-marital affair will end up divorced! It is no wonder they follow up by saying 85% of partners who divorced as a result of an extra-marital affair end up regretting their decision; multiple divorces wreak havoc emotionally and financially.
The more times you have been married, the more likely you are to get a divorce!
So give yourself a favor before saying, “I do,” and make sure that when you pick your mate, they really are the one!
You may end up remarrying your ex
In a study of 1,000 couples who got back together after splitting, 8% said they divorced and then remarried their ex! I wonder what presents are like at that wedding.
Social media is opening up a whole new divorce ballgame
That’s right: couples who are more obsessed with social media are more likely to get divorced.
According to ABC News, 1/3 of all 2012 divorce filings contained the word “Facebook”.
Couples counseling really works: not all couples are doomed!
That’s right. Even if your marriage seems like it is heading for divorce, it is not necessarily the end. For every 10 couples seeking a divorce, a whopping 6 are savable! Half of couples who sought counseling showed consistent signs of improvement over the next 4 years and beyond.
So if you are really considering leaving that once-special someone, why not try a little couples counseling first? Who knows? You might be laughing about the whole misunderstanding in years to come—or you may still be throwing darts at a cardboard cutout of your ex… either way, it’s worth a try!
Have divorced friends? You may soon join them!
Apparently, people who are friends with divorced individuals are more likely to get divorced themselves! According to Rose McDermott, author of it is a mouthful “breaking up is hard to do, Unless Everyone Else Is Doing It Too: Social Network really effects on divorce in a longitudinal sample.”
Furthermore, its not easy to find a hotshot New York or Chicago divorce lawyer to come out on the top. Now that you know what to do and what not in your marriage, according to these unknown divorce facts, why not make the most of marriage counseling and see if you can’t save that old flame? If not, never forget
“Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.”