As if dating and relationships weren’t hard enough, now you have to worry if you are a side chick or not too? (What a bummer)
Side chick a.k.a the other woman or the mistress who is unaware that she is sitting on the bench in this game of love while someone else is batting. It isn’t easy being sidelined like this but sometimes you don’t even realize that you are one until the train leave leaves the station and you are stranded alone.
But there are red flags that the guy you just gushed about in your WhatsApp group is just using you to cheat on their main partner and they are always in your near sight but most people tend to ignore them as they are too busy fondling with the love arrow.
Bring your rationale mind forward and check if the points below ring any bell or even bash the door wide open.
1. You know nothing about his boy’s gang
Except for some names, he throws around when he is out with them and can’t meet you. When a guy wants to show off someone he really likes, he first introduces them to his friends. And if he always dodges the question of you hanging out with his friend like you dodge the question of marriage with your parents. Then this might indicate that you aren’t that important to him and remains on the side bench in his life.
2. He calls you…at night
Anytime after 11 and he’s just looking for some easy and quick sex. Does he ever call you during the day to hang out? Think about it. These are b**ty calls, ask anyone around. IT’S-A B**TY CALL.
3. He ghosts you for days
We all are born in the generation where communication is mainly done through wireless mediums. And ghosting is a new tool of torture where people don’t respond for weeks and completely becomes a ghost of a person who once existed. If the guy has evolutionised into a ghost for you, then you probably are just a side chick who he doesn’t value you much.
4. He never shares
Being emotionally connected is the basis of any relationship (Unless you are into wham bam thank you mam) and if a man refuses to open up with you and gets offensive when you pry a little, chances are that he isn’t planning to stay for long. Attachment can be scary for some people in the beginning but never sharing his life with you is a problem.
5. His phone is off limits for you
Boundaries are fun and necessary when it comes to establishing new relationships but if your so-called lover clutches his phone like a baby in front of you and gets all red even if you touch it, signs indicate that he doesn’t trust you and is probably hiding something. Either his main chick or the other side chicks. (Men can be pigs sometimes but that would be offensive to bacon)
6. You aren’t in his priority list
The most elementary prerequisite of having a boyfriend is that he is there when you need him. But this has never happened to you because he is always too busy for you. In fact, when you need help, he may not even be the first person that comes to your mind which is a huge sign on its own that he has someone else he is rooting for.
7. You don’t exist on his social media
Yes, not everyone is out there but if you guy posts about his oh so mundane meals every day and is highly active with posting those poker face selfies and yet your presence on his social media only exists in likes or comments section then that might a red flag. If he goes monkey bananas when you post a picture with him you know what this means. It’s not because he looks bad in photos. It’s because he doesn’t want anyone to find out he’s hooking up with you.
8. The hang out place is limited to your home
Everyone loves dating and what is even the point of dating if you guys don’t go out on dates. But is he doesn’t like hanging out with you outside the limits of your house of certain geography, there is probably a reason behind it which is going to bite you in your plum. (Not in a kinky way)
9. He has a wife or girlfriend
Umm… you don’t need to be a rocket scientist to know that you are an unwanted appetizer when there exists a full on the main course. You are just a taste setter in his life which doesn’t even show up in the end credits. We hope this point doesn’t need an explaination.
Being a side person in a life of a person you gave so much importance to can be mentally exhausting and depressing. but a smart person once said
Men are like buses, if you miss one, another one will be coming in 5 minutes
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