Are you dating a bisexual? As curious as you may be about their lifestyle and how their sexual life works, there are some things that you just don’t ask them without sounding like an A-hole.
The LGBTQ community already has its share of prejudices and problems in real life. So your ignorant side need not give them more grief with your lack of knowledge. Its time you learn what is acceptable and what is not acceptable to say in front of people whose sexuality doesn’t associate with the mainstream hetero-normative categories. (Basically the rainbow people, we are way more fun anyhow)
Of course, you’d want to know more about who they are and how they came to be, but it’s up to them to show you. You can’t make up a story inside your head and expect them to confirm it. And don’t you even dare to assume that things happening in movies and TV series can be applied to your partner. (Your knowledge of LGBTQ from GOT remains wasted)
Dealing with one’s sexuality is tough enough in this era of bigots and hypocrites, so refrain from creating an issue about your lover’s past and present sexual orientation, and you can begin by not saying any of the following phrases.
1. You’re probably open to doing a threesome, right?
Okay! Back down you imbecile fool. Threesome is a way of adding kink to your sexual life and doesn’t really mean exploring your partner’s sexuality. Being bisexual means preferring both the genders as sexual partners but that doesn’t necessarily mean having both of them at once.
2. So, how did you know you were bisexual?
You called yourself heterosexual even when you were a virgin. We rest our case.
3. I bet that I can change your mind
Hmm. Well! This mostly comes from the annoying self-contained pricks. And we have heard men and women both boasting about having the abilities to change our orientation. Ask this question and guarantee yourself a night of not getting laid.
4. Since we’re dating, does that mean you’re straight/gay now?
Us having a relationship with you means that we are attracted you but that wouldn’t change our orientation. I love mangoes and oranges. Since last year I opted for a mango only diet. I am committed to this diet and I will remain honest with it. But that doesn’t mean I stopped liking oranges all together. The said relationship we have with you is more important than any label.
5. You wouldn’t start liking my friends right?
Just because we are attracted to the people of the same sex doesn’t make us a flight risk or a person with no morals. If you have to ask this question then you probably need help. Professional one.
6. Do you ever miss being with a guy/girl?
Just like any other human, when a bisexual person is in a loving relationship, the only person enough for them is the person they are dating. Just like any other relationship. Unless the said bisexual person is a player who wants to have the best of both worlds. (We will let you be the judge of that)
7. Was the sex better when you were with a girl/guy?
The sex would be better if you stop asking such mindless questions. It doesn’t matter if you have a p*n*s or a v*g*na, if a person loves you and wants to be with you then the only thing you need to worry is about how you apply yourself using these pleasure organs.
8. You are sure you aren’t just experimenting?
In a world where alternative sexuality is seen as a taboo, we don’t need your added judgments or such doubts. Keep them to yourself. Even if a person is experimenting you wouldn’t want to judge them or ask them. Let people be. (Leave the judgey looks and statements to your neighborhood aunties)
Loving a bisexual person is like loving any other person. When it comes to relationships, they shouldn’t have to be classified in a group of their own. They don’t switch orientations. They just love their partner. And it’ll do your relationship a lot of good to remember that.
Bisexuals are great. They aren’t gay. They aren’t straight. They are Graight.
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