You’ve finally met the girl of your dreams; she’s pretty, she’s smart, has the same music taste as you, love the same football team. What are you waiting for, Go get her! The problem? Your best friend likes her too. Well, things are about to get Awkward! So, what should you do?
Step down and watch your friend take her or make your move to win her? Love or friendship?
Here’s a guide to dealing with that situation-
Back down or chase her
Should you consider stepping out of the game for the woman that you adore in order to save your friendship? Or jeopardise your friendship for a girl?
Acknowledge your feelings, don’t get rid of them. Deal with the situation in a conscious way.
Well, consider the risks involved in both the scenarios as it is entirely up to you to decide how to proceed in this situation by giving it a well thought.
Talk it out
It is healthier to put out your feelings and problems in words. Discuss the problem calmly with your friend- don’t fuss about it or get angry. The conversation might be awkward and pretty uncomfortable but don’t worry about it. It might bring out a conclusion.
This will definitely take the heavy load off your chest.
Go for it
If you truly believe that this girl could be “The one” and not just some prize that you could win over a friend, then follow your heart and go for the girl.
Women respect honesty. So instead of being a total jerk about your best friend, tell her the truth. Tell her he likes her too and that you feel terrible about hurting him.
Let her decide
Now that the girl is aware of the situation between you and your friend and everybody’s feelings are right on the table. She can make her own decision. It will have little to do with you and your best friend, and everything with what she feels. And that is what matters in the end.
If you win the girl
Well, good for you. Remember don’t make it seem like a battle that you won and rub it in your friend’s face. This friend is someone who you’ve known way before you even met this girl.
It would be a shame to lose a best friend over a girl.
If she chooses your friend over you
Don’t be bitter or start hating on your friend. Accept the fact that the girl is more into him than you. It is completely pointless to get mad at either the girl or your friend, they’re free to make decisions based on what they feel.
It’s okay to be sad. Take some time to process your feelings and move forward. In the end, it’s just best to be happy about your friend and his new girlfriend.