You are having sex with your woman, she is writhing and grinding amidst the sheets, she claims she ‘came’, and…
You notice all or some of the physical evidence of her experience before she hits the ‘big-O’. But, have you ever wondered if she actually had a climax, or was she just going through the motions of what you needed to see?
If this situation seems familiar, then we’ll have you know that this article is just for you. A female orgasm is a mystery, just like the beautiful creation that is the woman herself. There are a few women who know how to reach the ‘finish’ line.
Are their partners able to recognize the signs?
Here are 4 tell-tale signs of a woman’s orgasm, a guide that can also be referred to by women confused about their orgasms.
1. IT’S NOT JUST A ‘GENITAL SNEEZE’
Sex in textbook terms refers to a ‘penis in the vagina’ situation. We have all studied it. In fact, online pornography means many have studied it comprehensively.
We have all done it (I’m talking to you non-virgins)!
And, when your partner orgasms it feels as if they’ve just sneezed … (bless you) from their vagina. But it’s more than that.
Indulging in coitus doesn’t mean the pleasure is only felt around the genitalia. Orgasms don’t even have to involve that region.
The orgasmic energy that women undergo during this time, encompasses every inch of their body, where she won’t necessarily end up reaching for the ‘climax’.
It just means that each individual has a certain set of sexual wiring that is unique to them. And, for most people, their sexual wiring needs to be stimulated and pleased in all those different areas including psychological desires, needs, and multiple sensory organs.
G-spot, vagina, clitoris and nipple are just some of the orgasms women are blessed with.
2. PHYSICAL REACTIONS ARE A TELL
Here are some of the physical reactions you can look out for.
i) Skin Looks Flushed
When people orgasm, they notice their skin on the stomach, chest, neck, and face, looks red/pink and feels sensitive and slightly warm when touched. This happens because of the blood flowing through all the blood vessels in the body.
When this phenomenon occurs, it is considered an ‘orgasmic flush’ or a ‘sex flush’.
ii) Muscles Contract Or Spasm
Sign of woman with orgasm experience muscle contractions during ‘the act’, or immediately after having one. The contractions can happen in multiple regions of your body including muscles in the stomach, vaginal walls, legs, thighs, and rear.
Although these reactions can be faked, some women (and also men) who orgasm, go through mild tremors or spasms, felt throughout their body, which can be harder to fake, but not impossible.
iii) Heart Rate Increases
As women inch closer to an orgasm, they take shorter, quicker breaths and their heart rate shoot up, drastically. And after their climax, the heart rate slows down and goes back to normal, while their breathing gets deeper.
This whole ordeal of returning to normal takes between 5 to 10 minutes.
Keep in mind that this part can be faked too. But, if it comes paired with the other physical factors of orgasm, then, be sure that your woman just had her orgasm.
iv) Sleep Kicks In
You feel relaxed, happy, and light after an orgasm – and often sleepy. So having an orgasm before you hit the sack can help you in attaining that much-needed beauty sleep. It’s science, after all!
You can thank your oxytocin for this one. (winks)
3. HOW ABOUT ASKING HER?
If you don’t ask, you will never know. It’s as simple as that. It doesn’t matter how well you know the physical sign of a woman orgasm if it can be faked.
Female ejaculation isn’t a common occurrence; but when a woman ejaculates, it is only just a few droplets, which can go unnoticed by the partner.
If both partners are comfortable seeing each other naked and having sex, you should be comfortable talking about sex as well! You should ask her whether she ‘came’, what needs to be done to make her cum, etc.
4. SHE EXCLAIMS!
When a woman says she is cumming, you better believe that she, in fact, finally experiencing her climax.
Although having an orgasm is the greatest feeling ever, it doesn’t have to always end with that, while having sex.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson famously quoted –
It’s not the destination. It’s about the journey