Being a sex addict can ruin your life. Sex in any healthy relationship is a good thing. A lot of sex can be great. But it can get to a point where you cannot control yourself. You won’t care about anything but sex, you may be suffering from sex addiction.
It may be hard for you to come to terms with these facts but you must recognise your flaws if you are to fic any of them.
Here are some things you may notice have
change in your life when you are aware that you are a sex-addict:
Monogamy is impossible for you:
You may be in the relationship you have always dreamed of with the person you imagined your life with and still not be able to maintain a relationship where you sleep only by your partner’s side. Or under them. Maybe on top of them.
The tough thing to accept when you admit to yourself that you are an addict is that you are perpetually in need of sex.
Sex is number one
Your life revolves around your sex routines and you are not bothered about hurting people’s emotions. Sex is your number one priority in life.
You can have a job you like, a loving spouse and all you’re are able to think of is sex, you have a problem.
You’re having sex with anyone you can
You often have sex with strangers and/or prostitutes? This can be caused by your never-ending thirst for sex.
I am not saying that having sex with strangers/prostitutes is necessarily bad (although one of them is). If you find yourself wanting sex, no matter who, where or when – you are a sex addict.
You HAVE to Masturbate
All of us touch ourselves when the heat is too high and there’s no way to quench the thirst for sex. Masturbating three times a day is common.
Ask yourself – do you masturbate several times a day? Can’t you stop yourself from it? If you answer no for both of those, go see a therapist. Trust me, it will help you with your addiction.
Consequences don’t matter to you
You aren’t bothered about the fact that you may be transferring an STD to someone if you are having irresponsible sex. Worse yet, you are going to end up getting one if you are not aware of what you are doing.
Your thirst takes over your life.
You won’t even be bothered how it will affect your relationship with your partner and that will certainly causing a dent.
You are obsessed with porn
Most of us if not all can admit to secretly indulging in watching porn every once in a while. But if you are addicted to porn as you are thirsty for sex, you have serious troubles.
Try to go without it so you can be really sure. Do your best to not watch porn for as long as possible. If you can control your thirst, things might not be that bad after all.
The Gollum effect
If you have seen or read The Lord of The Rings, you know exactly what I’m talking about. When you get thirsty for sex, that is how you feel. You cannot help yourself from doing it. You lose all control over your life.
If you have got to this point, you can be fairly sure that you are a sex-addict.
Genuine and healthy relationships don’t exist in your life
You have never been able to keep a relationship for the bond that you built with a person. Rather, all your relationships are messed up and you haven’t been able to change it.
Maybe you got caught cheating or your partner found out that you masturbate 10 times a day. Whatever they find out, it is going to be weird for them and they will end up leaving your lying buttocks.
You hate yourself
There’s no easy way to even start to get a hold of this fact but at some point, you are going to start hating yourself. You hate yourself for not being able to control it and you hate how it has ruined your life.
Recovering from this realisation will be a difficult task but it will motivate you to do better. For that, you need to be well guided so you don’t give in to thirst again.
Your ex-partners have told you
If your previous partners have told you that you are a sex-addict, chances are that you probably are. The fact that somebody else told you about your bad habit shows that they care for you.
I do not mean that you definitely are a sex-addict but rather that the more times you hear it, the more likely it is that you are one.
You live two lives
You have a double life, one that revolves around the people in your life and the other that revolves around your thirst for sex, your rising libido. Only you know about this dark side of you, although people will eventually figure out what you are up to.
You work hard to seperate these two parts of your life but you will not be able to for very long.
If you are experiencing any or all of these signs, it is time you really go and see a sex therapist.