Your friends might have been pros at their dating game, experiences and tips (which work at times). But these Love Guru pals might not be on the right track all the time.
Yep, we agree they sound overwhelming and oh so awesome to be true! Yet, hold on to that thought…we have news for you.
“Love is a lot like a toothache. It doesn’t show up on x-rays, but you know it’s there.”
Tips to avoid.
Don’t worry lovesick crack heads, we’ve got you sorted with tips and tales that you should be avoiding. Thank us later!
Nobody else seems attractive when you’re in love
Really? How could not check out Tom Cruise if he passes you by at the Airport? You can totally have a crush while you’re still in a relationship with your partner, and that does not mean that you love them any less. Also, that definitely does not mean that you’re cheating. It’s just physical attraction guys, take a dip!
Space separates lovers
The ultimate bull*** that we’ve heard at least once in our lifetime. Folks, here’s a reality check, space does not ruin a relationship, space actually builds a relationship. Take a break, take some time, go in for a solo spa or a movie, let your partners go on a trip with their gang.
Solo trips and pamper sessions like these make your partners appreciate you more and make them feel that you truly care for them. When you’re spending too much time with your partners, you end up getting used to them which results in more arguments, not a good sign guys!
Perfect relationships are effortless
This is the biggest lie you’ll ever hear in your entire love lifetime. Relationships don’t work on their own, they’re a perfect two-player game that needs equal efforts and equal turns. Communication and understanding play a major role and people, don’t expect things to be perfect…EVER!
Having a child will keep your relationship intact
Having a child seems great, but it’s definitely not so great that it’ll pop some magical fountain of happiness. In fact, having a child brings in more efforts from each other, in other words, it means that you’re adding on to one more aspect to think and worry about.
Work on your relationship and make it better with a baby, by love and not by compulsions.
True passion always stays alive
A candle does not burn on its own! As simple as that. A relationship too needs its own level of fuelling for its passion to keep burning. Passion in a relationship does not stay alive on its own. If you and your partner are having sex a few times a week, that’s great.
But if you and your partner have busy work schedules, you need to understand that sexual intimacy does not build on its own out of the blue. Try something new on the weekends like a role play or a seducing game. Pep it up!
Arguments in a relationships is unhealthy
Whoever ever advices this, never really heard about ‘makeup sex’! Arguments can end up hurting you both, but the hurt and those moments of silence just make your partner miss you more. The bonding after an argument makes every other silly thing seem worth it. But make sure these arguments don’t happen often.
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You don’t need to change for someone else
This advice is somewhat true but not entirely. If your partner loves you for who you are, then damn you’re the luckiest. But everything isn’t always perfect, sometimes your partner might not like a few habits about you, then maybe give in thought for a change. If she hates your wet towels on the bed, then just quit it already.
Your Love Guru of the gang might ‘know it all.’ But come on, even you know it ‘Not all the time.’
If someone loves you, they’ll know what you want
Honey, you’re dating a human, not a genie (sorry about that). If you want something just say it, save your partners from the trauma. Communication plays a major role in a happy relationship. Some couples might seem like they’re so perfect and they can read each other’s minds, but trust us it’s no magic, it’s just a good communication game.
Jealousy is a true sign of love
Jealousy can definitely be a sign of love, but hold on to that thought. Jealousy can sometimes also mean selfishness and malicious behaviour. If you’re being checked out and your partner gets jealous, then that’s absolutely fine.
But if your partner is bugging you around for your passwords and every ‘like’ that you get on your pictures on social media then darling you’re just dating another psycho from the asylum.
Sex is overrated
NO ITS NOT! The more the merrier! And whoever told you this is definitely isn’t getting enough action and doesn’t want you to have it either. Sex brings you closer and heats up the steam in a relationship and definitely gets all the horns blowing (quite precisely). Chuck the advice and get your beds rocking!
Next time when someone acts ‘Love Guru’ you know who the real Guru is!
