Single or we have a beau (or we’re somewhere in between), constant nagging of the family members will inevitably come around and ask us when we’re going to get married.
Millennials are more disinterested in the idea of marriage than any generation before them.
People who point fingers at the ones who are not married, it’s unnecessary and honestly just annoying.
It’s assumed that everyone grows up wanting the perfect half and dreaming of perfect wedding day before riding off into the sunset of lifetime marital. In reality, it’s a little different, it’s more than just bliss its handwork. Sometimes, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea and maybe they just prefer champagne. Its time we recognize self-importance more than recognizing our right partner.
Here are 10 fantastic reasons to never tie the knot:
1. You’re not sure about the person or decision.
Just because you’re with someone doesn’t mean you need to get married to them (duh!) If you’ve been together for a while but still aren’t entirely sure about spending the rest of your life with them, don’t rush, wait it out and literally figure things out. Just enjoy being together, for starters.
2. You don’t want the stress.
Weddings are supposed to be about love but often aren’t, rather its stress and not smiles. If you don’t handle pressure well, getting married might not be your favorite thing. In fact, it could easily turn into a total nightmare and make you want to run the other way.
3. You don’t need someone to complete you.
Every romantic comedy ever revolves around finding the person who makes them feel whole and complete and blah. If you don’t feel like you need a better half to be happy and satisfied with your life as it is, don’t beat yourself up. It’s totally okay to be your own soulmate.
4. You’d rather spend your money on traveling.
Marriage is another institution that only makes us broke, life-saving spent in 4-5 days of a show-off. If you’d rather spend that on something else—like traveling around the globe and crossing places off your bucket list—why not? There’s no reason to feel like you need to spend your money if you’d much rather spend it backpacking through Europe.
5. You have trust issues.
Trust is pivotal in relationships. Unfortunately, if it’s something you’ve lost in the past due to reasons, whether that’s through cheating or heartbreak. If your trust issues are making it difficult for you to step ahead, don’t push it. Trust your gut and chances could be that your instincts are right.
6. You don’t like monogamy.
When you get married, you’re joined like,‘till death does us part.’ While that’s an amazing thing for some, others see it as a roadblock, life’s over.
For many people, marriage means monogamy, although there are some open marriages. Perhaps you’re bored being with only one person, who doesn’t want to remain faithful and wants to have a variety of partners and adventures and romantic relationships in the future.
7. You’re annoyed with your partner forever.
Little annoyances are totally understandable and, frankly, quite common. How can you not be annoyed at some things your partner does when you share the same space. If its a constant struggle with them then maybe its a red flag and shouldn’t be overlooked.
8. Being a wife sucks
The social norms of being a wife are bullshit. Husbands are depicted as bumbling oafs who can’t even dress properly without their wives.
Despite the supposed rise in marriage equality, studies show that even when both partners are employed, women still do the bulk of the housework and childcare.
Thus, men are freed up to maintain a healthy social life. For example, it’s totally normal for husbands to still go out for drinks with the boys, after work. (They’ve earned it, after all). The social life of women is almost non-existent and however, takes a sharp turn after marriage.
9. When you’re not married, you can leave your dude at any time
This is awesome if you think about it. If you don’t like your dude, you can just… leave. If he turns into a huge jerk, just leave. Or maybe you just aren’t feeling him, anymore. Maybe you have your eye on someone else. Maybe you met him when you were both studying Botany, but you’re not so into that plant science stuff anymore and you two don’t have much to talk about.
You can just break up! Sure, it sucks to move out all your junk and find a new place to live (if you even lived together), but there are no complicated legalities like there are in a divorce.
Breaking up with a dude is great and easy. But when you want a marriage to end, it is another beast, entirely.
10. You’ve seen how ugly it can get firsthand.
If you’re a child of divorce, you may have witnessed a nasty breakup between your parents, or have been caught in the crossfire of their arguments and pettiness. You may believe marriage could most likely lead to that outcome for you, and you don’t want to repeat their mistakes.
BY LAKSHYA LAW | DKODING MEDIA