BY SHAGUFTA ALI | DKODING
Breastfeeding changes your body in some major proportions. There will be some days wherein you will feel irritated and your breast will become larger and you may feel uncomfortable.
Your nipples may be cracked and maybe they will change their appearance. And I am not even mentioning the stress that happens because of the disturbance in sleeping patterns. Yes, these things do not just affect your sex life but it affects your kills your mood as well.
Generally, you are not supposed to have any kind of vaginal sex till your postpartum checkup is done but then if you feel like that you want to have sex before checkup then you go girl….!!! There are as such no barriers that you are not allowed to do it.
Even during solo masturbation or with a partner, you can go for it unless your doctor strictly told you to avoid it. And if you don’t feel any kind of desire or urge to have it, then its perfectly fine.
Let’s see how breastfeeding affects your sex life :
Breastfeeding actually gives you a roller-coster ride and its not the same as it was before pregnancy. Your body produces prolactin hormone in increased amounts which actually helps to stimulate milk production.
But higher prolactin levels go vice-versa with lower estrogen levels and this means that it will lead to vaginal dryness. If you want to have any kind of sexual intercourse while breastfeeding, then it’s important to use lube because your body won’t produce enough lubrication which will help you out easily.
Breastfeeding has its own side effects as your breast will probably leak milk even when you are not feeding your baby. There will be situations wherein your breast might leak if you are looking at your baby’s photo or while soaping in shower.
Breast leaking can turn around into a real downer as it will probably leak while having any sexual activity with your partner. This is quite normal as the hormone oxytocin is the real reason for both the major reason for the formulation of breast milk production and ohh-gasm. But for some people leakage during sex is a turn-off but for some people, it can be a real trigger for your mood.
Even if you don’t experience or aren’t bothered by leakage during sex, your breasts will likely feel different while you’re breastfeeding. Breast play or nipple stimulation might feel uncomfortable or painful while you’re breastfeeding — especially if you’re pumping or if you have mastitis, a painful inflammation of the breast tissue that arises from breastfeeding.
If you still feel sexual but don’t want your breasts touched, you can ask your partner to focus on other body parts. On the other hand, having your breasts touched by your partner might feel like a nice change.
Touched out terms can be used for those people who are caregivers of newborn babies or young children.
This is usually used for that feeling when you are touched by a baby all day, then you don’t want any “extra” touch from anybody else, no matter if it’s coming from a romantic partner.
At the end of the day if someone wants to come closer to you then you might just feel “Don’t touch” because then your whole body is exasperated and you feel like “I have nothing left to give”. The only thing which you will love to have is your sleep.
The physical, hormonal and emotional changes that happen because of breastfeeding are a reason for your lower libido. It might be possible that you will not feel sex-driven but if you want to have sex while breastfeeding then go for it!.
Slowly, your sex-drive and passion will come back and your libido will get higher as more time will pass. Once your baby begins feeding less frequently or maybe when you will stop breastfeeding.
The most important thing is that sex isn’t the only way to create that ecstasy with your partner. There is a power in few things which eventually lead to a good makeout.
Holding hands, getting engaged in deep conversation, slow kissing and maybe taking a long walk together. Cuddle and massage are also one of the things which will make you feel quite happy when you are going through hard days of breastfeeding.
But this doesn’t mean that you cannot have sex after becoming a mother. It’s totally fine to prioritize your kid and then think about your love life.