”A woman is a hard nut to crack”. She is considered settled only if she is married, a woman is good when she zips her lips. Women work under emotions and can spoil everything when they go out of the mind.
This is how the patriarchal society gives her names.
- Understand a woman through a spiritual mind.
- Understand her journey
- A woman bends down and surrenders her dreams.
To know a woman you need to understand her with a spiritual mindset. Understand a woman through her dreams, desires, and differences.
Understand her chasing of changes that life brings for her
A woman experiences changes, be it physical or emotional that comes with a frivolous pattern, flashing a lot of her vulnerability. Her life becomes “stages of the cycle “. In order to fit the “new image” of feminine stereotype a lot of women waste their time and energy chasing things that concern too much about how they look, what to dress and how to behave that make them ideal. They run after one by one and chase things that can never create value for her.
Understand how she governs different aspects of life:
From a girl to a mother, a woman has always been active and responsible in her duties yet considered a passive human being. The woman who has to stay home with her children is often identified with the idea of weakness and working woman doesn’t fit in the stereotype of femininity. it is important to value her contribution rather than treating it as her bonded duty.
Understand her dreams than her femininity
For many men, still, a woman is someone who can flatter his ego with beauty, elegance, faithfulness and being passive, ignorant and vulnerable. The tendency of despising an intelligent, cultivated, active woman is customary. People hardly understand what a woman wants, her vision, her dreams, her presence, and her representation. For many, women are treated as a commodity. Their dreams are not long-lived. They always chase the dream of others and bend their will and surrender their own.
Yes, women are hard to crack because you have only let her dream in a shell. You let her settled only when she is spilled. Women are not a holiday destination where you come to relax and go, treat them like a sacred place.
In a patriarchal society, men are by default considered powerful. If that’s so then power comes with great responsibility, a responsibility to make a woman feel secured and respected.
Contributed by Dr. Sunita Singh, Assistant professor, CIE, University of Delhi.