It’s about a husband and wife deciding to explore Tinder experience…
Recently one of the evenings, I was having a drink with my male friend from college — he is single and actively looking for a long-term relationship and very much active on Tinder. During our conversation — He asked me —why there seemed to be so many married women on Tinder now a days.
Why should they not be?
I was pleasantly surprised with his question. I replied in sarcasm – Why should they not be — I am a married woman and if I wish to be on Tinder — What’s wrong in it?
He was immediately apologetic and to justify his question, he opened his Tinder app and showed me — the increased popularity of married woman on Tinder.
I do understand, Married women are much bolder while describing their bio on Tinder and are a best bet considering they are looking for just sex or one night stand, if so.
Now he felt comfortbale seeing my reaction and asked me again – Whats happening my friend — What would make married women come on Tinder. I replied like an ambassador of the women fraternity and gave him all ‘Gyan’ I could on the topic in question.
Women have challenged the status quo
Just FYI – I have been writing blogs on marriage and relationships. And many studies do show that in the last couple of years women have challenged the status quo and broken shackles set by the society. So this was bound to happen sooner rather than later.
Today’s woman is not ready to live a compromised life and settle for anything mediocre. She is open, bold and knows what she wants more than ever before.
Woman are starting to believe in open marriages?
More and more woman are starting to believe in open marriages —no more monogamy. I would say apps like Tinder have played a significant role in this upliftment and have brought out options unlike our times. Tinder and similar apps have made life exciting for not only single people but for married people as much and most certainly so.
Following my discussion with this friend — something triggered off on the inside of me and I was wondering more and more married woman are on tinder, so how does it really work?
This kept playing in my mind and since my husband and I have a fairly comfortable relationship — I told him l how about exploring Tinder. He was game in the instant and we decided not to have sex but do this for playfulness and fun!
My life is good but fun is missing
My husband and I share a decent relationship – no crises but no time for romance too. Sex is like how it is for married couples with kids, less than average I would say. But as a whole we are happily married couple — life is good — may be fun is missing…
Anyways — we created our Tinder profiles and searched multiple other profiles just to be sure — what works. He wanted a perfect Tinder profile where-in I was okay with just having one.
Perfect Tinder profile is best when ‘short and crisp’!
Finally we both had Tinder profiles now.
My profile said
‘I am a married woman’ – Looking for some fun!
It didn’t take long before I started to receive messages one after the other. Some were totally NO NO there and then and some were worth considering. I have to admit – I felt some joy seeing other men looking at me and compliments pouring.
I was on a high as if I have had a bottle of my favourite wine.
But I was actually in two minds at this moment — I thought, if I tell these Tinder men — I am happily married and just here for flirting — they perhaps would lose interest in me.
To my surprise, it was the other way round. I got extremely positive responses.
Wow! Thats amazing — one swiper replied. Another one wrote— that’ll be fun and no strings attached – great! And so on so forth…
Why I didn’t join Tinder earlier
This continued and I was flirting and having a good time with strangers. I was enjoying the feeling of an object of desire and importance after a very long time. Men were offering to take me for a date, for shopping or even a foreign holiday. It felt really special and boosted my confidence manifold.
I felt special, desired and valued. Every married woman in this world should be on Tinder to spice up her life in a BIG way. I was wondering – Why I didn’t join Tinder earlier… It’s really an exciting tool to keep your married life fired up.
I would seriously suggest every married woman to be on Tinder — explore — have fun. It would keep their routined married life spiced up quite nicely.
Unless you are willing to cheat
Neverthless, it’s always going to be a perosnal choice. Also depends on your comfort with your husband to a very large extent unless you are willing to cheat or be unfaithful — No harm though!
It’s usually very difficult for men to see their wife having a playful time with a strangers or other men. Their insecurity could have an adverse affect on your relationship – so do it but first build it up carefully. It’s a senstive matter.
It’s been absolutely exciting times for me since Tinder happened. Though it could be exhausting also – considering you are managing multiple virtual relationships and each one is different and some are a big lie too. Expectations are varied. I have managed well so far!
Though I received multiple offers to meet my Tinder men and each one was incentivising me in their own style…to the extent that they wanted to give me multiple Os and the best oral sex experience of my life.
Not that I dislike being pleasured with mouth!
I love it, but wasn’t sure — I was yes and no both. Though I turned down many offers without being rude but honestly I didn’t want to lose them at the same time.
I thought, this was becoming an addiction and I was loving it! I was starting to consider some of the proposals to meet up atleast and explore things further. But may be I wanted to take my time. So I did.
I knew in side of me that it’s just a matter of time and with every passing day I was feeling more and more confident to lead conversations as they suited me.
My husband doesn’t know about it and I don’t regret it
Finally after a couple of months of flirting and enjoying virtual love making with a few men of choice — I had sex with one of them. My husband doesn’t know about it and I don’t regret it.
It made me happy and if I am happy I spread happiness at home.
Routine and leading a life with boundaries sometimes hold you back from being your best self or real self I would say — and therefore every married woman must explore herself on Tinder for enhanced experience and excitement.
“Remember women — you are a sexual being first and a wife later”
Therefore, It’s about time married women do not hold themselves back for things that married men have been wanting and perhaps doing for ages.