I made a fake profile about a month ago, and I caught my wife on Tinder looking for friends with benefits (FWB).
I’ve (35m) caught my (33f) spouse on Tinder. I work overtime, come home tired and I agree I can’t give her the attention she needs.
But, most people would understand that work stress can really set your mood off. I am also a human and I can’t always smother you with the amount of attention you feel that you need.
And, I feel absolutely clueless and deceived. I don’t know how long has my wife been cheating on me.
My wife is on Tinder and she is looking for friends with benefits. Unimaginable!
Off lately, my wife started using a lot of excuses to meet her friends I have never heard of before. It pushed me into thinking what if she is cheating on me, but I let it pass as I always have trusted my wife.
But her so-called ‘meetings’ slowly turned from three hours to gradually four hours, five, and six! Then she started staying out of home for almost an entire day. And her long list of lame excuses kept on increasing.
One day she told me she was going to meet Anna, and I swear to God, I have never heard that name from her ever before. In fact, I know she has made me introduce to all her friends, then who is Anna? I knew she was lying.
She would often lie to me about a friend being ill. Sometimes, she would speak of people or take names which I have never come across in my marriage. And Suzy (my wife) has always made me introduce her to all her friends before.
That’s when I grew suspicious and I decided to create a fake profile on Tinder.
I am devasted and I need help
I don’t know for how long has she been using Tinder. She would act so normal with me, at home. We would also go out for movies. but yeah, one time, last week, during the movies, she got a call which she said was ‘urgent‘ and didn’t return for nearly 40 minutes.
I am waiting for her to confess or confront me on this. But it seems like she will never and enjoy both the ways— being married, and having fun on Tinder. I have been holding this up for more than a month and it has only been killing me.
I get upset because I don’t want to leave my wife but cheating is not healthy in a relationship. If I tell her then I am scared this will wreck our marriage.
I got back on Tinder three days ago to see if she is still active on Tinder. And there she is, updated a song (I always recognize her profile by the song), still looking for FWB.
I don’t know what am I suppose to do with this woman, I have loved and cared for so much. And she is treating me with such so much disrespect. I would never consider doing these things to her.
Having said that, is there any tech person reading this, her phone is locked, and she gets a ‘secure-folder password’ to access notification on her phone. I mean, why would one need a secure folder?
*Disclaimer: Name of persons have been changed to protect their identity