Divorce rates increase in coronavirus-quarantined couples.
As many couples are forced to stay at home and spend an awful lot of time together, COVID-19 pandemic (Coronavirus) is also causing havoc in our personal relations and divorce rates are going up. Let’s find out how…
Paul and Amy were a rock solid married couple staying in New York. Both of them were very successful in their careers, making a lot of money and busy globetrotting for client meetings. However, since the outbreak of coronavirus they have started spending 24 hours of a day together. While in any ordinary case this might have strengthened their relationship, at this testing time it is just doing the opposite.
They have been constantly fighting, getting on at each other’s nerves and throwing things at each other. The stresses of being quarantined together at these testing times have put a strain on their relationship. Their fights have become so ugly that they are contemplating a divorce during coronavirus. Paul and Amy are not the only couple who are facing the side effects of a mandatory lockdown. Divorce filings are increasing from quarantine-weary and financially stressed couples across the globe.
NYC power divorce attorney William D. Zabel, a founding partner of Schulte Roth & Zabel, told Page Six, “We’ve had an increased amount of calls in the past week from people seeking representation for divorce proceedings, a 50 percent increase, and I have been hearing the same from my colleagues at other firms.”
The situation is same in other parts of the world. China has also seen a spike in divorce rates since the outbreak of COVID-19 early this year. A report published in the Global Times says there is a massive spike in divorce appointments in the Chinese city Xi’an since the marriage registration offices opened earlier in March. By the first week of March, the office said it received 14 divorce appointments, which was the limit set by the office.
Reasons for spike in divorce rate
When you are confined with your partner for very long time with no external distractions it can either make or break your relationship. Several issues crop up between the partners and they look out for ways to vent out their frustrations on each other.
There is another financial angle that is considered as a reason for wealthy people to divorce. Experts believe that as coronavirus has had an impact on the global economy as well as individual’s finances, the richer spouses may decide they want out while their net worth dips as that will help him to avoid larger divorce settlement.
Zabel explains to Page Six that an economic downturn is always a motivating factor for richer spouse to divorce his partner. The reason is that as the net worth of the wealthy spouse is lower, and therefore a settlement could be lower. Hence, he is anticipating a rise in wealthy, high-profile divorces in the coming months.
Coronavirus: Pressure test for marriages
The impact of coronavirus is not only reflected in the number of people infected, deaths or its impact on economy, but can also be seen on people’s emotional wellbeing. It is leading to stress, anxiety, panic, a lack of social connection because of lookdowns. These emotions can damage a relation. Anne Hollonds, director of the Australian Institute of Family Studies, tells ABC News, “stressful or traumatic events can bring some couples closer together against a common threat, even if just temporarily.
But for others, it will drive them apart” — perhaps by revealing existing vulnerabilities in the relationship, or different coping styles.” Also the stress can have an adverse impact on the sex lives of the couple who are either maintain distance as a precaution or are simply not in the mood for sex due to the stress and uncertainty of the crisis.
Tips to stay married through the coronavirus crisis:
- Create physical boundaries: If possible, try to find different places to work inside your home so that you both don’t disturb and distract each other.
- Divide household responsibilities: Household chores should be distributed fairly among the partners and nobody should feel burdened.
- Communicate how you feel: If you are anxious about something or just feeling emotional, communicating how you feel to your partner will bring you closer.
- Intimacy: Make time to get intimate with your partner by first starting by an extensive foreplay and then cuddling with your partner to strengthen your bond.
- Be grateful: Acknowledging when your partner does something thoughtful will make him feel appreciated and would create a happier environment at home.